Tokyo. 日本东京。 Some characteristics restaurant. 某特色餐馆。 Li Shuixiu and Jiang Feng are chatting while eating. 李水秀与江枫三人正在边吃边聊。 Li Shuixiu asked: " Jiang Feng, you are visit Tokyo? " 李水秀问道:「江枫,你们是来东京旅游的吗？」 Jiang Feng said: " Yes, is not, I am a matchmaker, coming to Tokyo to give a customer brings both sides together, the traveling is only matter while convenient. " 江枫道:「是,也不是,我是一位媒人,来东京是为了给一个客户牵线搭桥,旅游只是顺便的事。」 Li Shuixiu said with amazement: " Not? Jiang Feng are you unexpectedly a matchmaker? Moreover now also conducts transnational acts as a matchmaker? " 李水秀惊讶道:「不是吧？江枫你竟然是一位媒人？而且现在还进行跨国做媒了？」 She lived internally for twenty years, moreover her family/home relative some love and marriage website had also been the matchmaker internally, therefore she did not say regarding the present situation of domestic matchmaker knows from A to Z, but should know basically knows. 她在国内生活了二十几年,而且她家一个亲戚还曾经在国内某个婚恋网站当过红娘,所以她对于国内媒人的现状不说了如指掌,但该知道的基本都知道。 Matchmaker who generally the specialty acts as a matchmaker, common is the married women over 35 years old, the male matchmaker has, but the quantity female matchmaker must be short a lot. 一般专职做媒的媒人,常见的都是35岁以上的已婚妇女,男媒人不是没有,但数量较女媒人要少得多。 As for these love and marriage websites as well as matrimonial agencies and so on matchmaker, actually is quite on the other hand young, but these matchmakers have very big difference from the traditional matchmaker. 至于那些婚恋网站以及婚介所之类的红娘,相对来说倒是比较年轻,但那些红娘跟传统媒人有着很大的区别。 Especially the matchmaker in love and marriage website, that is really the pit deceased person does not pay with a life, said that the sentence is not exaggerating, is no better compared with these pyramid scheme organizations, the difference cheats out of money does not restrict your personal freedom. 尤其婚恋网站的红娘,那真的是坑死人不偿命,说句不夸张的,比那些传销组织都好不到哪里去,区别只是骗钱不限制你人身自由而已。 According to her family/home that becomes the relative of matchmaker to disclose in the love and marriage website, they after entering the duty must first train, but how the content of training listens to other matchmakers to telephone. 根据她家那位在婚恋网站当过红娘的亲戚爆料,她们在入职后都要先进行培训,而培训的内容就是听其他红娘是怎么打电话的。 The matchmakers have a fixed words technique manuscript, telephoning time must to reading, but must make the flexible adjustment according to the situation of chat, does this look like with the multi-level marketing very much? 红娘们都有一个固定的话术稿,打电话的时候要对着念,还要根据聊天的情况进行灵活调整,这跟传销是不是很像？ When with the customer telephones, the words technique of matchmaker is first opposite party tells: " Saw you to register our APP, we paid attention to you very much, felt that your condition was very good, but the material has not filled in entire...... " 在跟客户打电话时,红娘的话术就是先跟对方讲:「看到你注册了我们的APP,我们很关注你,感觉你条件很好,但是资料没有填全……」 Wraps others materials, for example the native place, the work, the income and family background these, are the information that general being on intimate terms can ask. 套人家的资料,比如籍贯、工作、收入、家庭背景这些,就是一般相亲会问的信息。 Chatting must display to be very warm-hearted, all are for their good appearances, spoke this industry to him is very good person, helping others introduce that the object to do good deeds to oneself, then said that looked you compared to worry, will therefore relate your words. 聊的时候还要表现出很热心,一切是为他们好的样子,跟他讲这个行业都是很好的人,帮别人介绍对象是为了给自己积德,然后就说看你们比较着急,所以才会联系你们这种话。 Said was clear after these, started the repertoire, for example first praised the boasts opposite party saying that looked your condition was good, why to the present also single, but also before will chat one while convenient next, when bid good-bye and bidding good-bye reason, generally the opposite party hears to flatter slightly a little will be floating. 讲清楚这些后就开始套路,比如先夸夸对方说看你条件蛮好的,为什么到现在还单身,还会顺便聊一下之前什么时候分手以及分手原因,一般对方听到吹捧会稍微有点飘。 The matchmakers are from working, life in the chat process and roads of various family aspect dying of suffocation customers: For example asked person who works to have liking, then goes to a set of reason, why does not have in the same place, certainly coursed you unable to find the right person the direction in the work. 红娘就是要在聊天过程中从工作、生活、家庭各方面堵死客户的路:比如问工作上有没有喜欢的人,然后就去套原因,为什么没有在一起,一定把方向引向你在工作中找不到合适的人了。 In the life has the friend to introduce why if any has not become, dies of suffocation this road again. 生活中有没有朋友介绍,如果有的话为什么没有成,再把这条路堵死。 Is the family member introduced again, generally speaking the family member said that if succeeded not single, will therefore tell him, possibly the family member introduced was not the type that you liked, but urged you to look for the partner. 再就是家里人有没有介绍,一般来说家里人介绍如果成功了也不会单身了,所以就会跟他说,可能家里人介绍的都不是你喜欢的类型,只是催着你找对象。 Such dies of suffocation the roads in various customer aspects earlier, brainwashes to instill into an idea to the customer, was you definitely could not find the object in the reality, if you did not look from us, you could spend one's last years lonely. Such later period introduced the object to him again, he had no reason rejection. 这样前期把客户各方面的路堵死,给客户洗脑灌输一个理念,就是你在现实里肯定找不到对象了,你要是不从我们这边找的话,你可能要孤独终老了。这样后期再给他介绍对象,他就没什么理由拒绝了。 Then the matchmaker will ask that the customer likes what type, after finding out, immediately told the customer: " Here just new members " , then described properly matched with the customer. 接下来红娘就会问客户喜欢什么类型,摸清楚之后马上告诉客户:「我们这里刚好有一位新加入的会员」,然后形容得跟客户门当户对一点。 If in view of the male customer, the matchmaker will introduce occupation that the common family can like, is quite " is good to marry " the occupation, for example the young master, nurse and bank staff and customer service type, the relative working conditions are quite simple. 如果是针对男性客户的话,红娘就会介绍一般家庭都会喜欢的职业,也就是比较「好嫁」的职业,比如幼师、护士、银行工作人员、客服这种,相对工作环境比较简单一点的。 In brief the matchmaker will arrange a person to come out according to his marriage requirements, just started, when matchmaker possibly cannot arrange such a person, if by any chance after blending senior matchmaker, the opens the mouth can arrange a person to come out. 总之红娘会按照他的择偶标准编一个人出来,刚开始当红娘的时候可能编不出来这样一个人,但等混成资深红娘后,张口就能编一个人出来。 For example the groom's family is the truck operator, the matchmaker can arrange one: " Us just had a girl to make the material authentication, she was the young master, the work was quite stable, looks very gentle, speech also small low voice. However the person does not have the complete human, can definitely a little shortcoming! " 比如男方是卡车司机,红娘就可以编一个:「我们这边刚好有个女孩子做了资料认证,她是做幼师的,工作比较稳定,看起来很温柔,说话也小小声的。但是人无完人,肯定会有点缺点嘛！」 The matchmakers will often arrange a shortcoming, for example this female 红娘往往会编一点缺点,比如这个女 The child possible stature to be a little diminutive, compared with slightly short, but short little actually everyone who you request can accept. If anything tallies, the customer may instead suspect where is not a little good, or with his anticipation a little disparity, so long as the disparity is not too big, they believe. 孩子可能个子有点矮小,比你要求的稍微矮一点,不过矮一点点其实大家都能接受。如果什么都符合,客户可能反而会怀疑,哪里有点不好,或者跟他的预期有点差距,只要差距不是太大,他们都会相信的。 The young City Customers are few, the matchmaker everyone can only divide to 2-3 guests every day, the work of matchmaker is with this 2-3 individual dozen of all day telephones. 小城市客户很少,红娘每天每人只能分到2-3个客人,红娘的工作就是要跟这2-3个人打一整天的电话。 Generally speaking, a matchmaker day can be called 12 people to arrive at the shop front through the telephone. 一般来说,红娘一天可以通过电话叫一两个人到店面。 But these customers can come, most likely to considering to see that female student who the matchmaker arranges. 而这些客户会过来,十有八九都是冲着想见到红娘编的那个女生。 After person " deceiving " arrives at the shop, will have other departments and personnel receives. 把人「骗」到店以后,会有另外的部门和人员去接待。 This reception in a dim small room, there is a sofa, two people sit face-to-face chat thin. The content that chatted basically in the repertoire with telephone was actually similar, will read some so-called member materials to the guest, died of suffocation the road in various aspects. 这个接待就是在一个昏暗的小房间里,有个沙发,两个人面对面坐着细聊。聊的内容其实基本跟电话里的套路差不多,会给客人看一些所谓的会员资料,在各方面把路堵死。 This type can chat generally is very long, chatting 2-3 hours is very normal. 这种一般能聊很久,聊个2-3个小时都是很正常的。 In this period of time, they continually will make anxiously, has worried to urge you very much. Following recommendation meal time will also tell the customer, this price pays half with opposite party, is actually not, makes your money respectively. 在这段时间里,他们会不断制造焦虑,一直很着急地催促你。后面推荐套餐的时候还会告诉客户,这个价格是跟对方一人付一半的,其实根本就不是,就是各赚你们一份钱。 Meal price lowest also wants more than 6000 dollars, high also has 20,000-30,000. 套餐价格最低的也要6000多块钱,高的也有20,000-30,000的。 Till they deceive the customer signs the contract the time is to say helped you find, actually the meal in some deadline, one month can see several people, exceeded that time, was clear on money Huoliang. They will not care about the person who sees to suit you, gathers the member of payment goes together, can collect collects, cannot have a liking for does not have the means that most people were could not find, cheated out of money. 他们骗客户签合同的时候都是说帮你找到为止,其实套餐是在某个期限内,一个月可以见几个人,超过那个时间,就钱货两清了。他们也不会在乎见的人适不适合你,就是将交了钱的会员凑到一起去,能凑就凑,看不上也没办法,大多数人都是找不到的,就是被骗钱了。 Therefore the shop will often have some old members to come noisily, basically is " dragging " character secret art, the entire industry is this. The customers come the noisy time, the leadership also very acts perversely, was you make noisily, what means but did you have to be able money to go back? 所以门店经常会有一些老会员过来闹,基本就是「拖」字诀,全行业都是这样的。客户过来闹的时候,领导也挺耍无赖的,就是你闹就闹好了,但是你有什么办法能把钱要回去呢？ Also there is a that type of the beginning quite cautious customer, chose 6000 many meals, but they, if discovered that your power of consumption is quite good, from the beginning perhaps does not worry to trick you to come 10,000-20,000 that types, will make you first come 6000, after seeing several people, told you, money handed over insufficiently much, if paid a sum of money again, several better resources can introduce give you, fished the second pen. 也有那种一开始比较谨慎的客户,选了6000多的套餐,但是他们如果发现你消费能力比较好的话,一开始也许不着急忽悠你来10,000-20,000那种,会让你先来个6000的,见了几个人后再告诉你,钱交得不够多,如果再交一笔钱的话,有几个更好的资源可以介绍给你,捞第二笔。 Sometimes they will also arrange some of their things, for example I am a single mother, fosters the child to be how laborious alone and so on. Because many customers divorce, therefore was sold the belt/bring very much easily has the empathy, if in addition everyone has similar emotion experience, is easier to pull closer the distance, many deceits establish above the trust. 有时他们还会编一些自己的事情,比如我是一个单身妈妈,独自抚养孩子如何辛苦之类的。因为很多客户是离异的,所以很容易被销售带的有同理心,加上大家如果有类似的情感经历的话,更容易拉近距离,很多欺骗都是建立在信任上面的。 Li Shuixiu that relative also calculates a little conscience, when running into a quite miserable customer, she was not really cruel enough to deceive others, in addition that employment history made her conscience be subject to suffer, deceives people to deceive to loathe, simply the resignation was not then dry. 李水秀那个亲戚还算有点良心,在遇到一个比较惨的客户时,她实在是不忍心骗人家了,再加上那段工作经历让她良心备受折磨,骗人都骗到自我厌恶了,便索性辞职不干了。 To compare to the love and marriage website, the matchmaker in matrimonial agency is slightly credible, will at least not make out of whole cloth a person to come out to deceive the customer carelessly, but pairs on the original resources, can the achievement look at the luck of customer. 想比起婚恋网站,婚介所的红娘稍微靠谱一点,至少不会胡乱瞎编一个人出来骗客户,只是在原有资源上进行配对,能不能成就看客户的运气了。 After becoming passes is happy, that is not matchmaker this matter of worrying. 至于成了之后过得幸不幸福,那不是红娘该操心的事。 At this time, Jiang Feng has read Li Shuixiu match material, is crystal clear to her present situation, saying that he smiles: " Sister Li, are you felt strange that I am young, worked as the matchmaker? After all is engaged in matchmaker industry, in the impression is the married woman of getting old. " 此时,江枫早已看过了李水秀的匹配资料,对她的现状洞若观火,他微笑的说道:「李姐,你是不是奇怪我年纪轻轻的,就当媒人了？毕竟从事媒人这个行业的,印象中都是上了年纪的已婚妇女。」 Li Shuixiu said: " I somewhat am truly strange, particularly you developed transnational to act as a matchmaker, were you matchmaker in love and marriage website? " 李水秀道:「我确实有些奇怪,尤其是你都发展到跨国做媒了,难道你是婚恋网站的红娘吗？」 Jiang Feng shakes the head saying: " It is not, I in our Gui Shengkai a matrimonial agency, the domestic reputation was good, helping many customers find the happiness, Tokyo's customer is actually listens to the friend to recommend, then flies to Gui Sheng to ask me to help her personally act as a matchmaker. " 江枫摇头道:「不是,我在我们桂省开了一家婚介所,在国内的名声还算不错,帮很多客户找到了幸福,东京的这个客户其实是听朋友推荐,然后亲自飞往桂省请我来帮她做媒的。」 Li Shuixiu praised: " Was fierce! " No matter believes at heart, she is impossible to question face to face. 李水秀赞道:「厉害了！」不管心里信不信,她也不可能当面质疑。 Jiang Feng knows that her present heart knot, said: " Actually, I besides working as matchmaker, but also the concurrent job told fortunes by physiognomy to tell fortunes, most excelled then looks at the marriage affinity, therefore the fans also took a nickname to call Grandmaster river to me. 江枫知道她现在的心结,说道:「其实,我除了当媒人以外,还兼职看相算命,最擅长的便是看姻缘,因此粉丝们也给我取了个绰号叫江大师。 I just 我刚 Just looked at Sister Li your appearance, discovered that your marital status was somewhat unsatisfactory, we can have the fate in the foreign meet. 刚看了李姐你的面相,发现你的婚姻状况有些不如人意,咱们能在异国他乡相遇也算是有缘分。 If Sister Li you if needed, I can help you calculate your marriage affinity in detail, and offers the best suggestion, if did not need that even. " 如果李姐你有需要的话,我可以帮你详细推算一下你的姻缘,并给出最好的建议,如果不需要的话那就算了。」 In just heard Jiang Feng saying that he also holds concurrent jobs to tell fortunes by physiognomy to tell fortunes, especially most is good at looking at the marriage affinity time, Li Shuixiu really suspected oneself ran into the swindler. 在刚刚听到江枫说他还兼职看相算命,尤其最擅长看姻缘的时候,李水秀真的怀疑自己是不是遇到骗子了。 But following Jiang Feng accurate said her marital status to be unsatisfactory, Li Shuixiu then somewhat touches does not permit, after all her marital status how, only then know. 可接下来江枫准确无误的说出了她的婚姻状况不如人意,李水秀便有些摸不准了,毕竟她的婚姻状况怎么样真的只有自己知道。 Also, she with the Jiang Feng three people of meets, that is really only accidental, does not have others to play a trick to deceive her possibility to her intentionally. 再说了,她跟江枫三人的相遇,那真的只是偶然,不存在人家故意给她设局欺骗她的可能。 Infers by this, Jiang Feng likely really understands to tell fortunes by physiognomy to tell fortunes, moreover has the attainments, otherwise " boasting shamelessly " will not say that must help her calculate the marriage affinity in detail, and offers the best suggestion. 以此推断,江枫很可能真的懂看相算命,而且颇有造诣,否则不会「大言不惭」的说要帮她详细推算姻缘,并给出最好的建议。 Thinks of here, Li Shuixiu said: " Never expected that your uncanny prediction Grandmaster, really lost the respect! That asked Grandmaster river to help me calculate my marriage affinity! " 想到这里,李水秀道:「没想到你还是位神算大师,真是失敬了！那就请江大师帮我推算一下我的姻缘吧！」 The Jiang Feng smile said: " Said, asking Sister Li you to provide a next record of one's horoscope, waited to finish eating the food I to calculate again well to you. " 江枫微笑道:「好说,请李姐你提供一下生辰八字,等吃完饭我再给你好好的推算一番。」 Li Shuixiu nods, after sending out the record of one's horoscope, then warm greeting Jiang Feng and the others ate the vegetable/dish. 李水秀点了点头,报出生辰八字后,便热情的招呼江枫等人吃菜。 When ate similarly, Jiang Feng started to help Li Shuixiu " calculation " get up. 等吃得差不多了,江枫才开始帮李水秀「推算」起来。 The specialty counts for three minutes, Jiang Feng then looks to Li Shuixiu, said: " Sister Li, your situation, I basic has calculated, you vigorous opposition of not Mr. Gu mother, the choice married Japan in the past, this thinks to meet on the happy life in ideal, finally life after marriage has not actually imagined is so happy. 专业掐指三分钟,江枫便看向李水秀,说道:「李姐,你的情况,我基本已经推算出来了,你当年不顾父母的强烈反对,选择远嫁日本,本以为会过上理想中的幸福生活,结果婚后的生活却没有想象中那么美好。 Integration Japan this that you are unable to do in Rome as Rome does, you in the parental family/home by the love, must be primarily the husband after marriage, you are unable to adapt to the status of housewife. 你无法入乡随俗的融入日本这个社会,你在父母家倍受宠爱,婚后一切要以丈夫为主,你无法适应家庭主妇的身份。 The most important thing is, you discovered that your husband has not imagined loves you, what your payout trades is offtracking of opposite party, you feel yourself like the joke. 最重要的是,你发现你丈夫没有想象中那么爱你,你的付出换来的是对方的出轨,你感觉自己就像个笑话。 These days you have wanted to divorce, because all sorts of scruples have not gone out truly this step, does not know that I said is right? " 这段时间你一直想离婚,但因为种种顾忌还没有真正走出这一步,不知道我说得对不对？」 Li Shuixiu hears startled to be a Celestial, the opposite party said is not bad, just like personally sees general, this was really inconceivable, is the home also hiding so fierce uncanny prediction Grandmaster unexpectedly? 李水秀听得惊为天人,对方说得是一点不差,犹如亲眼所见一般,这实在是太不可思议了,国内竟然还藏着如此厉害的神算大师？ The key is this uncanny prediction Grandmaster is so young! 关键是这位神算大师还如此年轻！ Li Shuixiu exclaims: " Grandmaster river, you were really a god, you calculated entire right, my present marital status is this, has wanted to divorce, but spoke in the past fully the words before the parents, now divorced returning to homeland that the ash cooked really to lose face too! 李水秀惊叹道:「江大师,你真是神了,你算的全对,我现在的婚姻状况就是这样,一直想离婚,但当年在父母面前把话说得太满了,现在离婚灰熘熘的回国真的太丢人了！ The child is my foot belt/bring to is so big, if I divorce definitely do not give up the child, but if takes away the child, first does not raise me to win him, even if successful strives for child's custody, perhaps will bring back to the country to go is not treated by my parents sees. 况且,孩子是我一手一脚带到这么大的,我要是离婚的话肯定是舍不得孩子的,可要是把孩子带走,先不提我争不争得过他,就算成功把孩子的抚养权争夺过来,带回国去恐怕也不会受我父母待见。 This is I have then hesitated the primary cause that is not daring to decide to divorce. " 这便是我一直犹豫着不敢下决心离婚的主要原因。」 Regarding Li Shuixiu exclamation, hundred li (0.5 km) Chinese parasol tree and Guo Bingbing became accustomed, uncanny prediction ability that their bosses have, they have experienced too multiple! 对于李水秀的惊叹,百里梧桐与郭冰冰都习以为常了,她们老板拥有的神算能力,她们已经见识过太多次了！ Jiang Feng said: Two issues that " Sister Li, you said that we stroke, first said that you divorce the ash to cook returning to homeland not to have the matter of face countenance to parents, this I thought that Sister Li you do not use actually too very powerful, disgraced what lowers the head and has before own parents? 江枫道:「李姐,你所说的两个问题,咱们一个个来捋,首先说你离婚灰熘熘回国无颜面对父母的事,这个我觉得李姐你其实不用太好强,在自己父母面前低头又有什么丢人的？ In this world, only has the parents to own child is most tolerant, regardless of will make the mistake anything they to choose to forgive you, you married the wrong person let alone, they only will love dearly your years to eat many to receive many grievance painstakingly. " 在这个世上,唯有父母对自己孩子是最宽容的,无论做错什么事情他们都会选择原谅你,更何况你只是嫁错人了而已,他们只会心疼你这些年来吃了多少苦受了多少委屈。」 Hears here, Li Shuixiu eye socket somewhat was slightly red, she knows that Jiang Feng has not spoken incorrectly, by her understanding of parents, if she divorces to return to homeland, her parents will definitely say nothing regarding her past choice, will only care that her these years ate many to receive many grievance painstakingly. 听到这里,李水秀眼眶微微有些红了,她知道江枫没有说错,以她对父母的了解,若是她离婚回国,她父母对于她当年的选择肯定会闭口不谈,只会关心她这些年来吃了多少苦受了多少委屈。 She actually fears is this, perhaps if the parents chose to scold her one to put out taunted her in the past, she is not uncomfortable. 她其实怕的就是这个,如果父母选择骂她一顿或许拿出当年的话来挖苦她一番,她心里都没有那么难受。 Only listens to Jiang Feng to continue saying: " As for the second issue, you feared the parents, because the child is the type of Japanese 只听江枫继续说道:「至于第二个问题,你怕父母因为孩子是日本人的种 Therefore can not like, this really has certain truth, after all Japan is not easy to level with the hatred of our country. 所以会不喜欢,这个确实有一定的道理,毕竟日本跟咱们国家的仇恨不是那么容易抹平的。 But this matter evades is useless, finally you must choose to face. 但这个事逃避是没有用的,最终你还是要选择面对。 Let alone the will of the people are the meat is longer, you bring back to the country the child, even if the parents do not like from the beginning, the time that may be together grew, has the sentiment eventually. 更何况人心都是肉长的,你把孩子带回国,哪怕父母一开始不喜欢,可相处的时间长了,终究是有感情的。 But the child grows in our country, accepts our country's education and culture, he is the typical Chinese. " 而孩子在我们国家成长,接受我们国家的教育与文化,那他就是地地道道的中国人。」 These words hear Li Shuixiu to nod again and again, she cannot make the decision , because this issue she does not have the means discussed with the family member and friend. 这番话听得李水秀连连点头,她之所以迟迟不能做出决定,是因为这个问题她没办法跟家人以及朋友商量。 People in confused, a friend's suggestion looks like the light pointing the way to be the same, currently Li Shuixiu has similar feeling. 人在迷茫的时候,朋友的一个建议就像是指路明灯一样,现在李水秀就有类似的感觉。