The people are sometimes very strange, something do not have the means to discuss with the family member friend, but with the stranger can actually the talk intimately with relative acquaintance, the matter of multi- privacy be able to discuss. 人有时候很奇怪,有些事情跟亲人朋友没办法谈,但跟陌生人却能交浅言深,多隐私的事情都能谈。 Present Li Shuixiu is this situation, in Jiang Feng calculates her marital status, after then dispelled the misgivings that she divorced, she opened the heart to chat her marriage with Jiang Feng, said the mental journey that the past years she married the Japanese husband. 现在的李水秀就是这种情况,在江枫算准了她的婚姻状况,然后打消了她离婚的顾虑后,她就敞开心扉跟江枫聊起了她的婚姻,把当年她嫁给日本丈夫的心路历程都说了出来。 Time of food, Li Shuixiu then accumulated 11 to say in heart many years of words oneself, feeling whole body comfortable many. 一顿饭的时间,李水秀便把自己积在心底多年的话都一一说了出来,感觉浑身都舒服了不少。 The Jiang Feng three people have been acting as the audience, when Li Shuixiu told, he said: „Therefore, Sister Li you do not need to continue to exercise forbearance, you in the maternal home are also parents' beloved daughter, finally now marries Japan, actually lives the life that the nannies are even inferior, this why?” 江枫三人一直在充当听众,等李水秀讲述完,他才说道:“所以,李姐你没必要继续忍让,你在娘家的时候也是父母的掌上明珠,结果现在远嫁到日本,却过着连保姆都不如的生活,这又何必呢？” Li Shuixiu sighs with emotion: „Yes, I was really silly, young lady well was improper, must marry here to suffer hardship, was really the brain water penetration!” 李水秀感慨道:“是啊,我真是太傻了,好好的大小姐不当,非得嫁到这里来受罪,真是脑子进水了！” Jiang Feng said: „Sister Li you are young, the road of life, these years experience, is also considering steadily to oneself a lesson, the divorce returns to homeland to start.” 江枫道:“李姐你还年轻,人生的路还长着呢,这几年的经历,就当是给自己一个教训,离婚回国还是可以重新开始的。” Li Shuixiu nods saying: „Thank the direction of Grandmaster river, I could not have decided regarding the divorce, have scruples this scruples that completely lost past that dutiful sharp qi, now undergoes your enlightening, I was take easy thoroughly, turn head I raised the divorce to him, then had child returning to homeland to start my new life.” 李水秀点头道:“感谢江大师的指点,原本我对于离婚还迟迟下不了决心,顾忌这个顾忌那个,完全失去了当年那种义无反顾的锐气,现在经过你的开导,我算是彻底想开了,回头我就向他提离婚,然后带孩子回国开始我新的人生。” Jiang Feng reminded: „Sister Li, your husband estimated that cannot easily agree, will suspect that in your also marriage went off track, will also threaten you with the child, you must be psychologically prepared of this aspect.” 江枫提醒道:“李姐,你丈夫估计不会轻易同意,甚至会怀疑你也婚内出轨了,还会拿孩子来威胁你,你要做好这方面的心理准备。” At this point, has to sigh with emotion Japan is really a country of rare and beautiful flowers, the female home capacity and social position are not high, does not have the opportunity in the work place, can only choose to work as a housewife after marriage most likely. 说到这里,就不得不感慨日本真的是一个奇葩的国家,女性的家庭地位以及社会地位都不高,在职场也没有用武之地,婚后十有八九都只能选择当一个家庭主妇。 Meanwhile, various policies of Japan are also good regarding the female, for example the fiscal power, Japan is the female wields family's fiscal power, even after the Japanese men marry, his wages will project on wife's account directly, this in China simply is the inconceivable matter. 但同时,日本的各种政策对于女性又挺好的,比如财政大权,日本都是女性执掌家里的财政大权,甚至日本男人结婚后,他的工资会直接打到老婆的账户,这在中国简直是不可思议的事情。 Is the Japanese woman after marriage offtracking rate/lead ranking world first, but the divorce rate of Japan lowers to the situation of letting the person being flabbergasted, this has saying that is a miracle. 还有就是日本女性婚后出轨率排名世界第一,但同时日本的离婚率又低到让人咋舌的地步,这不得不说是一个奇迹。 Causes this matter to happen, the most fundamental reason is most Japanese men cannot leave the marriage, this is not the exaggerating view, really cannot leave. 导致这种事情发生,最根本的原因就是大部分日本男人都离不起婚,这可不是夸张的说法,是真的离不起。 Because the Japanese women mostly are the full-time wives, the benefits and privilege that therefore legally enjoys are many, includes treatment after divorce. 因为日本女性大多是全职太太,所以在法律上享有的福利和特权非常多的,其中就包括离婚后的待遇这一条。 Japanese «Marriage law» stipulated that if the husband works outside, paid the complete social insurance payments, his wife was the housewife at home, in the future during can also share the marriage, groom's family 50 pensions. As the matter stands, the bride's side not going out work still had the economic security of second half lifetime even. 日本的《婚姻法》规定,如果老公在外工作,缴纳了完整的社会保险金,他的妻子在家做家庭主妇,将来也可以分享婚姻期间男方50的养老金。这样一来,女方即使不外出工作也有后半辈子的经济保障了。 Is the groom's family goes off track, if consulted inadequately, the litigant may to the family court request stacking. 还有就是男方出轨,若协商不成,当事人可向家庭裁判所请求处理。 Was requested to divide beyond the couple joint property, the divorce compensation, pension and child support payment by side Chu of offtracking, but can also and small three proposes the economic compensation to the offtracking side. 被出轨的一方除要求分割夫妻共同财产、离婚补偿、养老金、抚养费外,还可以向出轨方及小三提出经济赔偿。 Amount of indemnification according to marital lasting year number and offtracking duration, small three whether is pregnant as well as by mental injury that and other factor determinations the offtracking side receives. 赔偿金额根据婚姻存续年数、出轨时间长短、小三是否怀孕以及被出轨方受到的精神伤害等因素确定。 When divorce, if the wife is the full-time wives, at age 65 can also attain husband half of pensions, does not need to be worried about the economic problem. 离婚时,如果妻子是全职太太,65岁后还可以拿到丈夫一半的养老金,根本不用担心经济问题。 Even if the bride's side goes off track, the groom's family must pay the wife the maintenance allowance, till wife second marriage, if especially the custody were won by the wife, the maintenance allowance that every month must pay will account for half of moon/month of income, this means that divorced the luxury goods. 即使是女方出轨,男方依然要付给妻子赡养费,直到妻子再婚为止,尤其抚养权若被妻子夺走的话,每个月要付出的赡养费将会占据月收入的一半,这意味着离婚成了奢侈品。 Therefore, the men in Japan really „cannot leave”. 所以,日本的男人是真的“离不起”。 Li Shuixiu hears word frowns saying: „ Accuses in my marriage to go off track I not to fear, after all my body is not fearing the shadow to be crooked, his sewage fa does not arrive on me, moreover even I still went off track, according to the marriage law of Japan, I can also enjoy to give favored treatment. 李水秀闻言蹙眉道:“指责我婚内出轨我倒不怕,毕竟我身正不怕影子歪,他的脏水沷不到我身上,而且就算我也出轨了,根据日本的婚姻法,我也能享受优待。 But if he threatens me with the child, I have really not known that should be what to do good! ” 但他要是拿孩子来威胁我,我还真不知道该怎么办才好！” „Sister Li, the issue about child, is actually the psychological warfare that among the couples plays, who displays to care, who will suffer a loss.” “李姐,关于孩子的问题,夫妻之间玩的其实就是心理战,谁表现得在乎,谁就会吃亏。” Jiang Feng said: „He will threaten you with the child, was he is sure you to care about the child, if you do not want to be threatened by him, that only then displayed does not care about the child compared with him, you only needed to make...... then this like this......” 江枫道:“他会拿孩子来威胁你,就是他吃准你太在乎孩子了,你如果不想被他威胁,那就只有表现得比他更不在乎孩子,你只需要这样做……然后这样……” Li Shuixiu hears to nod again and again: „I understood, if he dares to threaten me with the child, I defer to Grandmaster river you to teach me to do.” 李水秀听得连连点头:“我明白了,如果他敢拿孩子来威胁我,我就按照江大师你教我的去做。” Jiang Feng un, said: „ Sister Li we exchange the contact method, we will estimate will return to homeland the day after tomorrow, if during this period you need to help, will call me. 江枫嗯了一声,说道:“李姐我们交换一下联系方式,我们预计后天回国,在此期间你如果需要帮助,就给我打电话。 If all goes well, after returning to homeland, you want to look for the partner, can make the call to me, I look certainly to be able to treat your man for you well. ” 如果一切顺利,等回国后你想找对象,也可以给我来电话,我一定替你物色个能好好对待你的男人。” Li Shuixiu feels grateful: „Really was thanked, if not today is predestined friends runs into you, I estimated that has not known wants determination how long to hesitate to be able under to divorce, moreover at the appointed time competed for the child time, perhaps will also pay a big price for this reason.” 李水秀感激道:“真是太谢谢了,如果不是今天有缘遇到你,我估计还不知道要犹豫多久才能下离婚的决心,而且到时争夺孩子的时候,恐怕也会为此付出不小的代价。” The Jiang Feng smile said: „Sister Li was polite, is the Chinese compatriots, the mutual help should be, my by tea generation of liquor, wishing Sister Li all your were smooth.” 江枫微笑道:“李姐客气了,都是中国同胞,互相帮助是应该的,那我就以茶代酒,祝李姐你一切顺利了。” „Un, all smooth, cheers!” “嗯,一切顺利,干杯！” „Cheers!” “干杯！” ...... …… Meanwhile, in three teacher is also accompanying Yamomato 13 as well as his parents eats meal together. 与此同时,三上老师也在陪山本十三以及他的父母一起吃饭。 Really like Grandmaster river said that the Yamomato 13 parents when saw in three teacher, displaying was extremely warm, after was familiar mutually, talking A culture without any scruples, even chatted in three teacher's performing skill in small movie. 果然就像江大师说的一样,山本十三的父母在见到三上老师的时候,表现得都极为热情,在互相熟悉了之后,就毫无顾忌的大谈a文化,甚至聊起了三上老师在小电影中的演技。 In three teacher as the top A girl, naturally does not lose anybody in this aspect, since Yamomato has nothing embarrassed, earnest was discussing that a culture and photography attainment, she naturally also has nothing to be awkward. 三上老师作为顶级的a女郎,在这方面自然也不输任何人,既然人家山本一家都没什么不好意思的,正儿八经的在讨论a文化以及拍摄心得,那她自然也没什么好尴尬的。 Therefore, sees the guardian to eat meal for the first time, whole time are discussing the photography of small movie, even before Yamomato parents also put out in three teacher, small movie example that photographs, obviously they have watched in three work of teacher. 于是,第一次见家长吃饭,大部分时间都是在探讨小电影的拍摄,甚至山本父母还拿出三上老师之前拍摄的小电影举例,显然他们都是观看过三上老师的作品。 Such scene, feels normal in Japan, if changes into China, even if these gradation actresses, cannot shoulder absolutely, will be definitely awkward one batch. 这样的场面,也就是在日本才觉得正常,要是换成在中国,哪怕是那些分级女演员,也绝对扛不住,必然会尴尬得一批。 Food gets down, in three teacher successfully integrated Yamomato one, Yamomato parents are excellent to her impression, speak frankly son Yamomato 13, if can in the teacher three marry, is his good fortune. 一顿饭下来,三上老师是成功融入了山本一家,山本父母对她的印象都极好,直言儿子山本十三要是能把三上老师娶回来,是他的福气。 To be honest, by warm, in three teacher went back to see his parents with the Chinese boyfriends the time, before the status of her A girl had not been revealed that the treatment that she enjoyed is not worse than the present. 说实话,论热情,之前三上老师跟中国男友回去见他父母的时候,在她a女郎的身份没有被揭穿之前,她享受到的待遇并不比现在差。 But after the parents of Chinese boyfriend knows her status, the attitude differed was too big, where looks like 1 : 00 burden not to have now, can heartily communicated the small movie attainment with his parents. The climbing mountains main family's current economic condition is also better than her former Chinese boyfriend again, this simply is her long-awaited marriage. 但在中国男友的父母知道她的身份后,前后态度相差真的太大了,哪像现在一点负担都没有,可以尽情的跟他的父母交流小电影心得。再加上山本家的经济条件比她那个前中国男友还要好,这简直是她梦寐以求的婚姻。 But all these, are Grandmaster river bring to her. 而这一切,都是江大师给她带来的。 Naturally, this matchmaker Grandmaster introduced Grandmaster river to her former boyfriend Ge Monarch, there is a merit. 当然,把江大师这位媒人大师介绍给她的前男友葛君,也有功劳。 When here marriage carried out truly, thanked Grandmaster river again well. 等这边的婚姻真正落实了,再好好的感谢江大师。 Makes Grandmaster river thank as for Ge Monarch, after all she is not suitable with his relations excessively the contact, she is indifferent, but is perhaps influential to Ge Monarch. 至于葛君就让江大师代为感谢,毕竟她跟他的关系不宜有过多接触,她是无所谓,但对葛君恐怕有影响。 Leaves from Yamamoto, is about 9 : 00 pm. 从山本家离开的时候,已经是晚上 9 点左右了。 Yamomato 13 drives to escort in three teacher to return to her dwelling. 山本十三开车护送三上老师回到她的住处。 After getting out, in three teacher meaningful asking: „Yamomato Monarch, noon poetry compares notes us is well-matched, does not know that you currently are also interested in conducting the poetry exchange again?” 下车之后,三上老师意味深长的问道:“山本君,中午的诗词切磋咱们算是旗鼓相当,不知道你现在还有没有兴趣再进行诗词交流？” Yamomato 13 tastes that noon poetry compares notes, immediately salutes saying: „In three teacher, I compares notes to be very interested to the poetry, hopes that this time compares notes to be able comprehensively more thorough.” 山本十三回味起中午诗词切磋的那一幕,立刻敬礼道:“三上老师,我对诗词切磋很有兴趣,希望这次切磋能够更加全面更加深入。” In three teacher smiling saying of: „This must try hard by Yamomato Monarch!” 三上老师笑盈盈的说道:“这个就要靠山本君努力了！” Yamomato ten Sanxing exerts saying: „Does not disappoint in three teacher inevitably.” 山本十三兴奋道:“必然不让三上老师失望。” At this point, two people smile, then tacit going upstairs. 说到这里,两人相视一笑,然后默契的上楼。 ...... …… After Jiang Feng and the others distinguished, Li Shuixiu goes to the father-in-law husband's family's home to pick up the child, although the parents-in-law do not help the belt/bring child, but will also pick up the child to play occasionally in the past, this is also the reason that she has free time to stroll to relax this afternoon. 与江枫等人分别后,李水秀就去公公婆婆家去接孩子,虽然公公婆婆不帮忙带孩子,不过偶尔也会接孩子过去玩一下,这也是她今天下午有空出来闲逛散心的原因。 Picks up the child, takes a bath after to her coaxes her to sleep, Li Shuixiu also takes a bath, then plays the cell phone, while waits for the husband to come back. 把孩子接回来,给她洗澡哄她睡觉后,李水秀也去洗了个澡,然后一边玩手机,一边等待丈夫回来。 Tonight, she prepares to lay cards on the table with the husband. 今晚,她就准备跟丈夫摊牌。 This first-grade then waited till early morning, in her husband Tasaburo brings the liquor air/Qi to come back. 这一等便等到了凌晨,她的丈夫中田三郎才带着酒气回来。 Since has planned to divorce, Li Shuixiu naturally cannot ruin itself again, goes to the entrance to greet the husband to hand over the slipper and with the briefcase to him, but treats as has not seen him to come back. 既然已经打算离婚了,李水秀自然不会再作贱自己,去门口迎接丈夫给他递拖鞋和拿公文包,而是当作没看到他回来。 A Tasaburo seeing that brow wrinkle, wants to curse at people. 中田三郎见状眉头一皱,就想骂人了。 However Li Shuixiu actually before he curses at people opens the mouth, said: „Nakata, we chatted!” 不过李水秀却在他骂人之前开口,说道:“中田,我们谈谈吧！” Felt that the wife tone is not right, Tasaburo then the abusive language of mouth swallows back, oneself took the pair slipper to put on, walked while asked: „What do you want to discuss?” 感觉到老婆语气不对,中田三郎便把嘴边的骂人话咽了回去,自己拿了双拖鞋穿上,一边走进来一边问道:“你想谈什么？” Li Shuixiu puts the cell phone to the table on, both hands surround in the chest front, looks at him saying: „Nakata, our marriages have survived in name only now, the matter that you go off track I have long known, since I have attempted to give you this period of time the opportunity, but your performance disappoints me, we divorce!” 李水秀把手机搁到桌子上,双手环抱在胸前,看着他道:“中田,我们的婚姻现在已经是名存实亡了,你出轨的事情我早已知道,我这段时间以来尝试着给过你机会,可你的表现太让我失望了,咱们离婚吧！” The wife knows matter that he goes off track, in this Tasaburo is not accidental/surprised, after all he does not go off track occasionally, but is flagrant indulged in dissipation outside, the wife's near person as his pillow, he cannot conceal the truth in any event. 老婆知道他出轨的事,这个中田三郎一点都不意外,毕竟他不是偶尔出轨,而是明目张胆的在外面花天酒地了,老婆作为他的枕边人,他是无论如何都瞒不住的。 Even, his daily greater part of the night comes back, was goes off track to create the condition for the wife, he believes that continued he to go off track, his wife also went off track same. 甚至,他每天大半夜才回来,也算是为老婆出轨创造了条件,他相信不止他出轨,他的老婆也一样出轨了。 In any case this in Japan is very normal matter, the wife goes off track regarding the Chinese men that is the great shame, but regarding many Japanese men, that is the wife attractive performance. 反正这个在日本是很正常的事情,老婆出轨对于中国男人来说那是奇耻大辱,但对于不少日本男人来说,那是老婆有魅力的表现。 But Tasaburo, obviously is the supporter of this concept. 而中田三郎,显然就是这种观念的支持者。 Everyone plays respectively various, no one has a deficit anyone, never expected that the wife will go off track to say the matter with him unexpectedly, but must raise the divorce with him, Tasaburo shakes the head to say directly: „I did not agree!” 大家各玩各的,谁也不亏欠谁,没想到老婆竟然会拿他出轨说事,还要跟他提离婚,中田三郎直接摇头道:“我不同意！” His reply in Li Shuixiu expected, her calm saying: „ Nakata, my not Mr. Gu Mu Qiang lie opposed in the past, the choice of being duty-bound not to turn back marries you, for these years but I crossed is what life you have cared? 他的回答在李水秀的意料之中,她语气平静的说道:“中田,当年我不顾父母强烈反对,义无反顾的选择嫁给你,可这几年来我过的是什么样的生活你有关心过吗？ Every day except for must serve your Sir, the housework of forever not being able to complete, after child birth, what thing is my one takes care of everything, I cross nannies to be inferior that you do know? ” 每天除了要伺候你这位大爷,还有永远做不完的家务,孩子出生后,什么东西都是我一手一脚包办,我过得连个保姆都不如你知道吗？” Tasaburo knits the brows: „Water show, our Japan woman, will help support the family at home after marriage, this you are know that does the housework regarding your females, isn't the matter that enjoys very much? How to listen to the meaning in your words, you felt that you are very laborious?” 中田三郎皱眉道:“水秀,我们日本女性,婚后都会在家相夫教子,这个你是知道的,做家务对于你们女性来说,不是一件很享受的事情吗？怎么听你话里的意思,你感觉自己很辛苦？” Li Shuixiu said: „ Perhaps regarding your many Japan women, doing the housework is the matter that enjoys very much, because they regard the lifetime employment to do this, was trained to make the related skill of housework in the maternal home by the parents. 李水秀道:“或许对于你们不少日本女性来说,做家务是一件很享受的事情,因为她们把这个当成终身职业去做,在娘家时就被父母培养做家务的相关技能。 But to me, the work is I likes, the house job that this type cannot complete forever, does not enjoy here, but suffers. 但对于我来说,工作才是我喜欢的,这种永远做不完的家务活,在我这里不是享受,而是折磨。 The losing one's spouse type mothering, this real extremely pit, for these years, I really received enough. ” 还有丧偶式育儿,这真的太坑了,这么多年来,我真的受够了。” Tasaburo shakes the head saying: „No matter how said, I do not agree to divorce, you know that this marriage I cannot leave.” 中田三郎摇头道:“不管怎么说,我是不同意离婚的,你知道的,这婚我离不起。” Li Shuixiu said: „To cannot leave to leave, I consult with you now well, you can agree well, can save troubles, did not agree, I must leave, is only some spending many times.” 李水秀道:“离不离得起都要离,我现在好好跟你协商,你能同意最好,可以省很多麻烦,不同意,我也要离,只是多费些功夫而已。” The Tasaburo complexion sinks instantaneously, the threat said: „Li Shuixiu, I told you, I did not agree to divorce absolutely, even if you filed the divorce suit to the court, so long as I did not coordinate, you not necessarily can successfully divorce. Moreover, so long as you do that, I strive certainly for daughter's custody with you, will not make you carry off the daughter absolutely.” 中田三郎脸色瞬间一沉,威胁道:“李水秀,我告诉你,我是绝对不同意离婚的,哪怕你向法院提起离婚诉讼,只要我不配合,你也不一定就能成功离婚。而且,只要你那样做,我一定跟你争夺女儿的抚养权,绝对不会让你把女儿带走的。” Saying that Li Shuixiu remains unmoved: „ So long as you do not fear disgraced, you although makes with me, after I divorce in any case, returns to homeland, no matter makes ugly/difficult to look at, will not affect me, but you must stay here to live, yourself think over well. 李水秀不为所动的说道:“只要你不怕丢人,那你就尽管跟我闹,反正我离婚后就回国,不管闹得有多难看,也不会影响到我,但你还要留在这里生活,你自己好好掂量。 Also, daughter's custody does not need you to struggle with me, you want to you, I return to homeland a person to be better in any case, leading the daughter to go back me also to fear that my parents do not like! ” 还有,女儿的抚养权不用你跟我争,你想要就给你,反正我回国一个人更好,带着女儿回去我还怕我父母不喜欢呢！” Tasaburo was stopped up the complexion to be pale, said like Li Shuixiu, the person of this divorce made one look down upon in Japan, if also makes noisily, that was really what face does not have. 中田三郎被堵得脸色铁青,诚如李水秀所说,这离婚的人在日本原本就让人瞧不起了,要是还闹得沸沸扬扬的话,那就真的是什么脸面都没了。 He can act bashful the wife only, is the daughter. 他唯一能拿捏老婆的,就是女儿。 After all his wife has many deeply him to know with daughter's sentiment. 毕竟他老婆跟女儿的感情有多深他是知道的。 But listens to his wife's meaning now, the daughters who she most loves must give up, the heart of divorce can be said as hard like the iron, making Tasaburo really have a headache. 可现在听他老婆的意思,她连最疼爱的女儿都要放弃了,离婚之心可以说是坚硬如铁,让中田三郎真的头痛了。 Did matter develop this suddenly? 事情怎么突然间就发展到这一步了呢？