Today, is Zhang to Li ‚looks at main house gate’ the day, besides Li Xingwen and stretch/open Qiulan these two leading actors and actresses, enjoyed praises of two relatives as river Feng of matchmaker. 今天,是张家到李家‘看家门’的日子,除了李兴文与张秋兰这两个男女主角以外,作为媒人的江枫也受到了两家亲戚的追捧。 This is because Li and Zhang river Feng can according to the appearance calculate that the mysterious ability of marriage said that on the one hand can praise for ‚Grandmaster river’, increases the business for him. On the other hand is also good for the relatives, after all ‚Grandmaster river’ at the marriage calculated that the ability in aspect has many their two is experiencing. 这是因为李家与张家把江枫可以根据面相推算婚姻的神奇能力说了出去,一方面可以替‘江大师’扬名,为他增加业务。另一方面也是为了亲戚们好,毕竟‘江大师’在婚姻推算方面的能力有多强他们两家算是亲历者。 Because knew river Feng the ability, the relative of Li and Zhang will exalt river Feng, particularly in the family/home has the nubile children's relative, is warmer to river Feng. 正因为知晓了江枫的能力,李家与张家的亲戚才会追捧江枫,尤其是家里有适婚儿女的亲戚,更是对江枫热情之极。 However tea Kung Fu, river Feng increased twenty WeChat good friends. 不过盏茶功夫,江枫就新增了二十几个微信好友。 Also these guardians are so no wonder positive, is really this age does not take a wife easily! 也难怪这些家长们都这么积极,实在是这个年代娶媳妇不容易啊！ According to the data of our country's seventh census, our country men and women proportion serious is not balanced. 根据我国第七次人口普查的数据,我国男女比例已严重不平衡。 And, the male accounts for 51.24, the female accounts for 48.76, namely the male is more than female 34.9 million people. 其中,男性占51.24,女性占48.76,即男性多于女性3490万人。 In other words, our country has 30 million male not to have the means to take a wife. 换句话说,我国有3000万男性没有办法娶媳妇。 Although this view is a little exaggerating, but now the groom's family marriage truly was too difficult. 这个说法虽然有点夸张,但现在男方结婚确实是太难了。 Especially in the rural area, the concept of regarding men as superior to women is deep-rooted, therefore male is far more than female generally, moreover many females of age after the city works does not want to return to the rural area again, causes female of rural area is fewer and fewer, making many male arrive 30-40 years old unable to marry the wife. 尤其是在农村,重男轻女的观念根深蒂固,因此男性人数一般都远多于女性,而且许多适龄女性在城市工作后就不想再返回农村,导致农村的女性人数是越来越少,让不少男性到了30-40岁都娶不到老婆。 Hundred beam counties as our country top three population big counties, here can be said as the disaster area of regarding men as superior to women thought. 百梁县作为我国排名前三的人口大县,这里可以说是重男轻女思想的重灾区。 According to 2020 population statistics, hundred beam district total numbers are 529256 households, household register total population 1925261 people, the masculine 1054135 people, the female 871126 people, the male and female sex ratio reaches as high as 121100. 据2020年的人口统计,百梁县总户数为529256户,户籍总人口1925261人,其中男性1054135人,女性871126人,男女性别比高达121100。 Can see from this group of data, the proportion that the men and women are out of balance was much serious. 从这组数据中就可以看出,男女失调的比例有多严重了。 This is typical not enough to go around! 这是典型的僧多粥少！ Perhaps regarding the good family financial circumstances male, the proportion that the men and women are out of balance seriously does not affect them again, are many are the female makes them choose. But regarding these family circumstances not good male, the difficulty of finding a wife is not general was big. 或许对于家境好的男性来说,男女失调的比例再严重也影响不到他们,多得是女性让他们挑选。但对于那些家境不好的男性来说,娶妻的难度就不是一般的大了。 Not speaking too far, the bachelor who Longshan Village that only river Feng is, over 30 years old has not married the wife can be said as stresses one in a big way, is the male who over 40 years old has not married the wife also has more than ten. 远的不说,单是江枫所在的龙山村,超过三十岁还没娶老婆的单身汉可以说是一抓一大把,就是超过四十岁还没娶老婆的男性也有十几个。 If divorce is also counted, this number were more. 如果把离异的也算上的话,这个数字就更多了。 In this has not really run into the right person except for a few, others basically are because does not have the ability to marry properly matched , and age differs not the big wife to work as this hoodlum. 这里面除了少数是真的没遇到合适的人,其他人基本都是因为没能力娶到门当户对且年龄相差不大的老婆才不得不当这个光棍的。 Because the single man is far more than single woman, according to the supply and demand theorem, the demand is bigger than the supplies the time, marries ‚bridegroom's gift to bride's family that’ the wife needs then start rise naturally. 正因为单身男性远多于单身女性,根据供求定理,需求大于供给的时候,娶老婆所需要的‘彩礼’便自然而然的开始上涨。 But ‚bridegroom's gift to bride's family’ yearly rise, aggravated the male to marry wife's burden, causing the male to marry the wife more difficult, finally helpless stalemate vicious circle. 而‘彩礼’的逐年上涨,又加重了男性娶老婆的负担,导致男性娶老婆更加困难,最终无奈的陷入恶性循环。 Under the big background, can become to the matchmaker who both parties bring both sides together like this more and more important, many parents to take a wife to the older son, does not hesitate to start out the high matchmaker money, this was also hundred beam counties governed the matchmaker in each villages to receive one of the higher and higher reasons in the past few years. 在这样的大背景下,能够给男女双方牵线搭桥的媒人就变得越来越重要了,很多父母为了给年纪越来越大的儿子娶媳妇,不惜开出高额的媒人钱,这也是近几年来百梁县辖下各个乡镇的媒人收入越来越高的原因之一。 ...... …… At noon operates the seat time, the good wine delicacies of Li careful preparation make all guests be extremely pleased. 中午开席的时候,李家精心准备的美酒佳肴让所有客人都感到非常满意。 After everyone eats to the heart's content, today this ‚looked main house gate’ invitation also gradually drew to a close, when Zhang Jia proposed said goodbye, Li polite detained several, then put out has prepared the good red packet, started to issue Zhang one by one a relative. 等大家酒足饭饱之后,今天这场‘看家门’的宴请也就逐渐走向尾声了,在张家提出告辞的时候,李家客气的挽留了几下,然后就拿出早已准备好的红包,开始逐一的发给张家一众亲戚。 river Feng as the matchmaker, received a thick red packet without a doubt. 江枫作为媒人,毫无疑问也收到了一个厚实的红包。 After accepting the red packet, river Feng asked with a smile: „Uncle Li, this marriage, your should here not have the issue?” 收下红包后,江枫笑着问道:“李叔,这门亲事,你们这边应该没问题了吧？” Li Mingcheng's satisfied saying with a smile: „Did not have the issue, Grandmaster river your vision was really great.” 李明诚满意的笑道:“没问题了,江大师你的眼光真是没得说。” river Feng nods, said: „Since Uncle Li you did not have the issue, That side Zhang should have no issue, that then must be married, how many bridegroom's gift to bride's family did Uncle Li you plan give?” 江枫点了点头,说道:“既然李叔你们这边没问题了,张家那边应该也没什么问题,那接下来就要谈婚论嫁了,彩礼的话李叔你们这边打算给多少？” Li Mingcheng thinks, asked: „Grandmaster river, about the bridegroom's gift to bride's family does not know that That side Zhang has the specific request?” 李明诚想了想,问道:“江大师,关于彩礼不知道张家那边有没有具体要求？” river Feng said: „I have not discussed the issue of bridegroom's gift to bride's family with Uncle Zhang, but they will go back with Uncle Zhang, can discuss this issue, Uncle Li you can first divulge the details to me now.” 江枫说道:“我跟张叔还没谈过彩礼的问题,不过等会跟张叔他们回去的时候,就可以谈谈这个问题了,李叔你现在可以先给我透个底。” Li Mingcheng said: „That 380,000, if That side Zhang is unsatisfied, but can also discuss again.” 李明诚说道:“那就38万吧,如果张家那边不满意的话,还可以再谈。” river Feng gives the thumbs-up saying: „Uncle Li atmosphere, this bridegroom's gift to bride's family number in our Qinghe Town is the highest rank, believes that Zhang will be unsatisfied, Uncle Li you waits for my good news!” 江枫竖起大拇指赞道:“李叔大气,这彩礼数目在我们青河镇已经是最高级别的了,相信张家不会不满意的,李叔你就等我的好消息吧！” „That troubled Grandmaster river!” “那就麻烦江大师了！” „Uncle Li does not use politely, this is my job.” “李叔不用客气,这是我份内之事。” ...... …… Come time is to open Jin Song drives, river Feng sits the vice- harnessing room, Ms. Zhang sits the back seat with autumn Sister Lan di. 来的时候是张锦松开车,江枫坐副驾室,张母与张秋兰姐弟坐后座。 Goes back changes into Ms. Zhang to drive, stretch/open Qiulan sits the vice- harnessing room, river Feng and Zhang Jin song father and son sit the back seat. 回去的时候则换成张母开车,张秋兰坐副驾室,江枫与张锦松父子坐后座。 After leaving Shaba Village, river Feng then asked with a smile: „Aunt Uncle Zhang zhang, That side this marriage Li did not have the issue, your should here not have the issue?” 在离开沙坝村后,江枫便笑着问道:“张叔张婶,这门亲事李家那边是没问题了,你们这边应该也没问题了吧？” Zhang Jin song said: „Our Zhang did not have the issue, we Xin Jiang Grandmaster your vision.” 张锦松说道:“我们张家也没问题了,我们都相信江大师你的眼光。” Ms. Zhang also said: „Li really has the sincerity, Sister-in-law Li Jia's personality is also good, my family autumn orchid Jia will pass should not to have the situation that the mothers and daughters-in-law will disagree.” 张母也说道:“李家确实有诚意,李家嫂子的性格也不错,我家秋兰嫁过去应该也不会出现婆媳不和的情况。” river Feng said: „This Aunt stretch/open you can feel relieved completely, if Sister Lan marries Li, not only the couple love, is also like the family/home Duke women can be together very well.” 江枫说道:“这个张婶你可以完全放心,兰姐要是嫁去李家,不仅夫妻恩爱,跟家公家婆也一样能相处得很好。” This saying hears Mr. and Mrs. Zhang Jin song to nod again and again, in the heart to daughter marriage was more and more satisfied! 这话听得张锦松夫妇连连点头,心中对女儿这门亲事是越来越满意了！ As for stretch/open Qiulan, hears is ecstatic, if the ordinary matchmaker says this, she perhaps when only the opposite party is facilitating the word of praise that this marriage affinity spoke, but changes into Grandmaster river to say this, that component was naturally different. 至于张秋兰,听得更是心花怒放,如果是普通的媒人说出这样的话,那她或许只当对方是在促成这段姻缘而说的好话,但换成江大师说出这样的话,那份量自然就不一样了。 Thinks after marriage the couple love, with the picture that the parents-in-law also live together in peace and harmony, in stretch/open Qiulan the heart cannot bear chuckle. 一想到婚后夫妻恩爱,与公婆也和睦相处的画面,张秋兰心中就忍不住窃喜。 „Since this marriage your both unanimously agreed that that is being married time, I want to ask that Aunt Uncle Zhang zhang, do you have the request to bridegroom's gift to bride's family aspect?” river Feng asked. “既然这门亲事你们两家都一致同意了,那接下来就是谈婚论嫁的时候了,我想问问张叔张婶,你们对彩礼这方面有没有要求？”江枫问道。 Zhang Jin song shakes the head saying: „Bridegroom's gift to bride's family we have no request, we were marry the daughter not to sell the daughter, the bridegroom's gift to bride's family make their Zhang Jia look to the lucky number on the line.” 张锦松摇头说道:“彩礼我们没什么要求,我们是嫁女儿又不是卖女儿,彩礼让他们张家看着给个吉祥数字就行了。” river Feng said: „Uncle Zhang said well, these die to clutch the parents who the bridegroom's gift to bride's family is not putting, with selling the daughter has no difference, truly parents who care about the daughter, so long as the daughter crosses happily good, bridegroom's gift to bride's family many that secondary.” 江枫说道:“张叔说得好,那些死揪着彩礼不放的父母,跟卖女儿没什么区别,真正关心女儿的父母,只要女儿过得幸福就好,彩礼多少那都是次要的。” Zhang Jin Songzan with repetitive nod, obviously this saying speaking of his heart. 张锦松赞同的连连点头,显然这话说到他的心坎上了。 river Feng said: „Uncle Zhang, I had asked Li before, Li Jia said that the bridegroom's gift to bride's family can discuss, since Aunt Uncle Zhang zhang has not requested to the bridegroom's gift to bride's family, that this bridegroom's gift to bride's family decides as 380,000, this is also the meaning of Li.” 江枫说道:“张叔,之前我已经问过李家了,李家说彩礼是可以商量的,既然张叔张婶对彩礼没有要求,那这彩礼就定为38万吧,这也是李家的意思。” Zhang Jin song parents hear the secret nod, what although their family/home regards as important is daughter's happiness, to bridegroom's gift to bride's family not too high request, but has saying that many of bridegroom's gift to bride's family basically can represent groom's family one to a bride's side attaching great importance to degree. 张锦松父母听得暗暗点头,虽然他们家看重的是女儿的幸福,对彩礼方面没有太高的要求,但不得不说彩礼的多少基本能代表男方一家对女方一家的重视程度。 Li opens the mouth is 380,000 bridegroom's gifts to bride's family, this hundred beam counties truly was the bridegroom's gift to bride's family of highest rank, moreover Li also conveyed a message saying that the bridegroom's gift to bride's family can discuss, this proved their Zhang, if had requirement, Li can also give a higher bridegroom's gift to bride's family. 李家一开口就是38万的彩礼,这在百梁县来说确实是最高级别的彩礼了,而且李家还传话说彩礼可以商量,这证明他们张家如果有要求的话,李家还能给出更高的彩礼。 Can see from this matter, Li is attaches great importance to regarding their daughter that extremely, such parents of son or daughter-in-law are truly rare, the daughter married them to be the parents in the past can also feel relieved. 从这件事就可以看出,李家对于他们女儿那是极度重视,这样的亲家确实难得,女儿嫁过去他们做父母的也能放心。 stretch/open Qiulan hears in the heart to like, she was 28 years old, is not the little girl who does not understand, naturally understand that Li gives 380,000 bridegroom's gifts to bride's family to represent what meaning. 张秋兰听得心中欢喜,她已经28岁了,不是什么都不懂的小女孩,自然明白李家给出38万彩礼代表着什么意思。 „Since this is the meaning of Li, that bridegroom's gift to bride's family decides as 380,000!” “既然这是李家的意思,那彩礼就定为38万吧！” Zhang Jin song nods, then asked: „Grandmaster river, does not know that in dowry, what do you have to suggest?” 张锦松点了点头,然后问道:“江大师,不知道在嫁妆方面,你有没有什么建议？” river Feng thinks, said: „The dowry words choose the practical thing as far as possible, best is Sister Lan is useful, in my opinion a dowry car(riage) is quite appropriate, this was also one of the present most common dowry.” 江枫想了想,说道:“嫁妆的话尽量选择实用的东西,最好是兰姐用得上的,依我看陪嫁一辆车就比较合适,这也是如今最常见的嫁妆之一了。” Zhang Jin loosen un, said: „That line, our Zhang is not lower than 300,000 car(riage)s on a preparation value, other assorted things look to buy, how does Grandmaster river you look?” 张锦松嗯了一声,说道:“那行,咱们张家就准备一辆价值不低于三十万的车,其它一些杂七杂八的东西就看着置办,江大师你看怎么样？” river Feng hears to commend again and again, this dowry in Qinghe Town similarly was the highest rank. 江枫听得连连称赞,这嫁妆在青河镇同样是最高级别了。 Can see from this bridegroom's gift to bride's family and dowry, Li and Zhang's degree of satisfaction to this marriage actually some were high. 从这彩礼与嫁妆就可以看出,李家与张家对这门亲事的满意度究竟有多高了。