‚Walks with me abreast in row, to he that eccentric person, obviously is also the hard job.’ «The Man in a Case» ‘跟我并排走路,对他那么性情孤僻的人来说,显然也是苦事。’《装在套子里的人》 Human is one type lives in groups the lifeform. 人类本身就是一种群居生物。 The scholars in some Western countries ‚will be even eccentric and not associate with others’ listed as the anti-social personality. 一些西方国家的学者甚至将‘性格孤僻、不与他人交往’列为了反社会型人格。 Because this is a performance of morbid state. 因为这本身就是一种病态的表现。 Eccentric and lonely different. 孤僻与孤独不同。 The lonely person hope associates, will not be sick of anybody, will not have the alert psychology to everyone. 孤独的人渴望与人交往,不会厌烦任何人,甚至也不会对所有人都抱有戒备心理。 The eccentric person is a personality performance flaw, they will usually be conceited, appears an appearance that looks down upon the person, but its innermost feelings are extremely weak, is afraid is stabbed, thus is not willing to associate. 孤僻的人则是一种人格表现缺陷,他们通常会自视甚高,显出一副瞧不起人的样子,但其内心极其虚弱,害怕被人刺伤,因而不愿与人交往。 When has to associate, the eccentric person also appears eccentric, unusual and artificial, always a nervous feeling. 在不得不与人交往时,孤僻的人也会显得行为怪异、奇特和做作,总是给人一种神经质的感觉。 They are very actually pitiful, not necessarily has the anti-social psychology or the violent tendency, but will feel that absolutely the self-closing, loses and feels inferior depressed, the hyperaesthesia,...... 他们其实很可怜,不一定有着反社会心理或暴力倾向,但却绝对会感到自闭、失落、自卑、神经过敏、郁郁寡欢…… It is not able to communicate normally, thus also makes them likes coming and going freely and living a solitary life. 无法正常与人沟通,从而也让他们变得更加喜欢独来独往、离群索居。 The eccentric character formation, the congenital factor are not many, mainly will be the day after tomorrow comes under the negative impacts of various subjective and objective environment, causing the heart to be in the right the time to be the result be at the depressing condition distortion. 孤僻性格形成,先天性的因素并不多,主要是后天受到各种主客观环境的负面影响,导致心理长时间处于压抑状态扭曲所致。 For example, later if Niannian again this way, she goes to the elementary school the time, likely because has not learned and contemporaries communicates, thus receives preemption of schoolmate, was regarded as the alternative by the schoolmates. 比如说,念念如果再继续这样下去,以后她上小学的时候,就很可能会因为没有学会与同龄人沟通,从而受到同学的排挤,被同学们当做是另类。 All day only with the little girl who the kitty chats, is don't tell me not very strange? 一个整天只会跟猫咪聊天的小女孩,难道还不够怪异吗？ The results show that in the elementary and middle school students community, about 5% to eccentricity that very 8% children can display. 调查结果表明,在中小学生群体中,约有5%到8%的孩子会表现的很孤僻。 But this, is an extremely exaggerating number. 而这,已经是一个极其夸张的数字了。 In 20 people, will present an eccentric individual. 二十个人里面,就会出现一个孤僻的个体。 The class and grade is a collective, the eccentric child is actually not able to integrate this collective, they are easier to receive schoolmate's ridicule, to ridicule, push aside and accuse. 班级是一个集体,性格孤僻的孩子却始终无法融入这个集体,以至于他们更容易受到同学的讥讽、嘲笑、排挤和指责。 This situation with the age growth of child, but gradually reduces. 这种情况会随着孩子的年龄增长而逐渐减少。 But this process, regarding these eccentric pitiful child, is actually incomparable long. 但这个过程,对于那些性格孤僻的可怜孩子来说,却是无比的漫长。 They will bear all kinds of pressure, finally actually becomes the stepping-stone of others development process. 他们会承受了各种各样的心理压力,最后却只是成为了别人成长过程的一块垫脚石。 Many years later, who remembers that initially that did experience suffering in the class and grade the anomaly that the ridicule and plays tricks on? 多年以后,谁又会记得当初那个在班级里受尽嘲笑与戏弄的怪胎呢？ Who will care, that anomaly now good? 谁又会去在意,那个怪胎现在过的还好吗？ ...... …… Chen Xi was scared. 陈曦慌神了。 After all, the psychological disease he really did not have the means to govern. 毕竟,心理疾病他还真的没办法治。 Therefore after earnest consideration, he then discussed hastily with Qin Ruoying: „Or...... delivers Niannian to go to the kindergarten?” 于是认真的考虑一番后,他便连忙跟秦若盈商量道:“要不……送念念去幼儿园？” hearing this, Qin Ruoying nods immediately. 闻言,秦若盈立刻点了点头。 She happen to also has this idea. 她正好也有这个想法。 Although Qin Ruoying wants to accompany Niannian, but to let Niannian's health joyful growth environment, therefore discrete good. 虽然秦若盈更想多陪陪念念,但为了让念念的健康快乐的成长环境,所以还是谨慎一些的好。 So long as related to the child, any guardian will become having groundless fears especially, even if a wee bit possibilities, they must possibly give to pinch out that promptly. 只要涉及到孩子,任何一个家长都会变得格外的杞人忧天,哪怕只有一丁点可能,他们也要及时将那丝可能给掐灭了。 The couple reach the agreement very much, therefore, Chen Xi then sits side the arrived little fellow. 夫妻俩很达成共识,于是,陈曦便坐到了小家伙身旁。 „Niannian, Father with you discussed that a matter is good?” “念念,爸爸跟你商量个事儿好不好？” „Un?” “嗯？” The little fellows are busy looking at Anime, the time that Chen Xi walks just tunnelled her vision. 小家伙正忙着看动画片,陈曦走过来的时候刚好挡住了她的视线。 After ahem, she was direct the side to lie on the bed, continued to look at Anime. 哼唧一声后,她便直接侧躺在了床上,继续看起了动画片。 Sees that Chen Xi then does intentionally serious saying: „Niannian, Father is speaking to you!” 见状,陈曦便故作严肃的说道:“念念,爸爸在跟你说话呢！” „Un?” “嗯？” In the eyes of little fellow full is the doubts, after shooting a look at Chen Xi one, this mumbled: „Papa you blocked me!” 小家伙的眼里满是疑惑,瞥了陈曦一眼后,这才嘟哝道:“粑粑你挡住我了！” „Father spoke to you, you first suspended, otherwise Father must be angry Oh.” “爸爸跟你说话呢,你先暂停一下,不然爸爸就要生气了哦。” „Oh.” “哦。” Some weight/quantity of Chen Xi obviously in little fellow mind. 陈曦在小家伙心目中明显还是有些分量的。 Therefore, after hesitant one next, her then obediently took the remote control to press down the suspension, then very sat cleverly. 因此,犹豫了一下后,她便乖乖拿着遥控器按下了暂停,然后十分乖巧的坐了起来。 „Papa you said!” “粑粑你说！” Seeing the little fellow is so clever, Chen Xi then very satisfied nod, then hugs the bosom her gently, earnest asking: „Niannian, do you want to go to the kindergarten?” 见小家伙如此乖巧,陈曦便十分满意的点了点头,然后轻轻将她搂到怀里,认真的问道:“念念,你想不想去幼儿园呀？” However, after the little fellow hears his issue, actually never imagined, with rattle-drum that the small head swings to result in continually immediately. 然而,小家伙听到他的问题后,却是连想都没想,立刻就把小脑袋摇的跟个拨浪鼓似得。 „Does not want! I do not go to the kindergarten!” “不要！我不要去幼儿园！” This somewhat came as a surprise to Chen Xi's obviously, therefore asked hastily: „Why? Before you very did not like the kindergarten?” 这显然就有些出乎陈曦的意料了,于是连忙问道:“为什么？以前你不是挺喜欢幼儿园的吗？” hearing this, the little fellow is then pursing the lips to reply loudly: „I do not like the kindergarten!” 闻言,小家伙便撅着嘴大声回答道:“我不喜欢幼儿园！” Perhaps to indicate own attitude, the little fellow even also repeats to shout: „I do not like the kindergarten! Does not like!” 或许是为了表明自己的态度,小家伙甚至还重复喊道:“我不喜欢幼儿园！不喜欢！” Her does not press the common sense to play a card, immediately Chen Xi making muddled. 她这不按常理出牌,顿时就把陈曦给弄糊涂了。 Before Mingming (clearly) was she wants to go, now suddenly does not want to go, this reneged also becomes too quick...... 以前明明是她自己想去的,现在突然又不想去了,这变卦也变得太快了吧…… Does not have the means that Chen Xi also to persuade patiently: „Niannian, kindergarten very fun, the teacher teaches you to draw, wears small safflower to you, the schoolmate accompanies you to play the game, why isn't willing to go?” 没办法,陈曦也只得耐心的劝说道:“念念,幼儿园挺好玩的呀,老师教你画画,给你戴小红花,还有同学陪你做游戏,为什么不愿意去？” Heard a Chen Xi such saying, the little fellow actually exploded instantaneously. 听到陈曦这么一说,小家伙却瞬间爆炸了。 Why also does not know, she violated suddenly muddily. 也不知为啥,她突然就犯起了浑。 After seeing only her the Chen Xi's arm shoves open, then lies on the bed about rolled, mouth in unceasing is talking over: „I do not go! I do not go! I do not like the kindergarten!” 只见她一把将陈曦的手臂推开以后,便躺在床上左右滚了起来,嘴里则在不断的念叨着:“我不要去！我不要去！我不喜欢幼儿园！” Chen Xi was shocked. 陈曦愣住了。 When did Niannian turn into this? 念念是啥时候变成了这样？ This simply is little devil! 这简直就是熊孩子啊！ Does don't tell me his educational method really have the issue? 难道他的教育方法真的有问题？ Still remembers that a while that he just came back, Niannian may be clever, both obedient and sensible. 还记得他刚刚回来的那一会儿,念念可乖了,既听话又懂事。 How long did he then bring Niannian? 他这才带了念念多久？ How to provide this child...... 咋就把孩子给养成这样了…… Thinks of here, Chen Xi fell into the deep reconsideration. 想到这里,陈曦不禁陷入了深深的反思。 Saw with own eyes the little fellow to act crazy, Qin Ruoying then also sat arrived side her. 眼见小家伙发飙了,秦若盈便也坐到了她身边。 Gently after the little fellow holds, she then patient asking: „Niannian, can tell us why you don't want to go to the kindergarten?” 轻轻将小家伙扶起来以后,她这才耐心的问道:“念念,可以跟我们说说,你为什么不想去幼儿园吗？” After hearing this issue, the little fellow gawked. 听到这个问题后,小家伙愣了一下。 But following close on, her ‘Wa’ one was actually crying. 但紧跟着,她却‘哇’的一声大哭了起来。 Then Qin Ruoying was also scared, hugged the bosom gentle voice to comfort her hastily. 这下秦若盈也慌神了,连忙将她搂到怀里柔声安慰了起来。 „Niannian do not cry, you are not willing to go, Father and Mother will not force you, but you must tell us reason that you do not want to go to?” “念念不要哭,你不愿意去,爸爸妈妈也不会勉强你,但是你总得跟我们说说你不想去的理由吧？” That that the little fellows cry is miserable. 小家伙哭的那是一个惨。 Chen Xi sees that went to the bathroom to take a hot towel to her hastily. 陈曦见状,连忙去卫生间给她拿了一张热毛巾来。 Working as one of the couple, spent the eldest child vigor stopping the little fellow weeping sound. 夫妻俩的齐心协力,费了老大劲儿才把小家伙哭声给止住了。 Also crossed some little time, little fellow then wept, while is shrivelled the mouth, very suffering saying: „I do not go to the kindergarten, I must with Papa and Mama in together......” 又过了好一会儿,小家伙这才一边啜泣,一边瘪着嘴,十分委屈的说道:“我不要去幼儿园,我要跟粑粑麻麻在一起……” hearing this, Qin Ruoying looked at each other one with Chen Xi, understood the reason instantaneously. 闻言,秦若盈不禁跟陈曦对视了一眼,瞬间就明白原因了。 This pitiful child...... 这可怜孩子…… Before was independently raised by Aunt Zhang, Father and Mother had not been at side her. 以前是被张婶独自带大的,爸爸妈妈一直都没有在她身边。 Therefore, after the little fellow has Father and Mother, she is not willing again with them to separate. 因此,当小家伙重新拥有爸爸妈妈以后,她就一刻也不愿再和他们分开。 But this, was she passed through the habitual criminal muddy basic reason obviously recently. 而这,显然就是她最近经常犯浑的根本原因了。 Since the children said that this kindergarten cannot go obviously. 既然孩子都这么说了,这幼儿园显然是去不了了。 Qin Ruoying hugged Niannian to think some little time, to say to Chen Xi suddenly: „Or, do we trade a method?” 秦若盈搂着念念想了好一会儿,忽然对陈曦说道:“要不,我们换个方法？” „What method?” “什么方法？” „You look at this cold season, basic leads the child to come out to play on few parents' meeting......” “你看这大冷天的,根本就没几个家长会带孩子出来玩……” „Niannian is not willing to go to the kindergarten, gets down definitely is not means......” “念念又不愿意去幼儿园,这么下去肯定不是个办法……” „Otherwise this......” “要不然这样吧……” „We open a bookstore, or restaurant and cafe and so on shop, this can make Niannian contact many strangers......” “我们开一家书店,或者餐厅、咖啡厅之类的店铺,这样就可以让念念接触到很多陌生人了……” hearing this, Chen Xi immediately at present one bright. 闻言,陈曦顿时眼前一亮。