3 : 30 pm. 下午 3 点半。 From being on vacation from school also a half hours, but the surroundings have been filled with a dense piece of person. 距离放学还有半个小时,不过周围已经挤满了黑压压的一片人。 Does not need to guess also knows, these all are the guardians who pick up the child. 不用猜也知道,这些全都是来接自家孩子的家长们。 Chen Xi 20-year-old young people, stand among Sir aunts, appears the flavor that somewhat like a crane among chickens actually. 陈曦一个20多岁的年轻人,站在一众大爷大妈中间,倒是显得有几分鹤立鸡群的味道。 The children are playing the game on the kindergarten drill ground. 孩子们正在幼儿园操场上玩着游戏。 Chen Xi is away from the fence to look at the little fellow, discovered that she in the delight that on the slide plays, has not paid attention to arrive outside fence. 陈曦隔着围墙看着小家伙,发现她正在滑梯上玩的不亦乐乎,根本就没有注意到站在围墙外的自己。 It seems like happy forgetting must look for Papa, this also made Chen Xi feel safely. 看来已经开心的忘记要找粑粑了,这也让陈曦觉得安心了许多。 He is really afraid Niannian to meet does not adapt to the circumstances of kindergarten. 他是真的害怕念念会不适应幼儿园的环境。 But cannot let the child suffers from the illness depression and so on weird disease, because these involve psychologically healthy and so on worry, he really does not have the rule of law...... 可千万不能让孩子患上自闭症抑郁症之类的怪病了,因为这些涉及到心理健康之类的心病,他是真的没法治…… Chen Xi stands outside the fence is looking at Niannian, at this time, an aunt actually put out a hand to pat him suddenly. 陈曦站在围墙外望着念念,这时,一个大妈却突然伸手拍了拍他。 „Yeah, the young fellow, are you children of Sister Zhang family/home?” “哎,小伙子,你是张大姐家的孩子吗？” Chen Xi then looks, actually sees him to stand behind a eldest sister with a smile. 陈曦回头看去,却见他身后站着一个笑吟吟的大姐。 It is not his first day coming back, just entered that fat aunt who neighborhood runs into. 可不就是他第一天回来,刚进小区就遇到的那个胖大妈。 „Ah? is right, I live in Building 5 Unit 1 302, the aunt are you?” “啊？对,我住5栋1单元302,阿姨您是？” „Hi, I said that always thought you somewhat look familiar, has probably seen several times in neighborhood. Saw Niannian a moment ago suddenly in inside, therefore I think that can Niannian be your child...... I am surnamed Qian, you called Auntie Qian to be good, my grandson also in inside, look, was that trouble maker.” “嗨,我就说嘛,总觉得你有些眼熟,好像在小区看到过几次。刚才突然看到念念在里面,所以我就想啊,念念会不会是你的孩子……我姓钱,你叫钱阿姨好了,我孙子也在里面嘞,看,就是那个捣蛋鬼。” Fat aunt said that but also while referred to the drill ground with a smile that running the boy like wind. 胖大妈一边说,还一边笑着指了指操场上那个跑的像风一样的男孩。 Looks at this stance, feared that had completely forgotten oneself had also regarded the lunatic of begging for food Chen Xi. 看她这架势,怕是已经完全忘记自己曾经还把陈曦当成过要饭的疯子了。 „Auntie Qian hello, I work outside, just went home some time, therefore even the next-door neighbors cannot recognize......” “钱阿姨您好,我在外面打工,刚回家一段时间,所以才连隔壁邻居都认不完……” „Is all right, after a period of time you knew.” “没事儿没事儿,过段时间你就认识了。” Auntie Qian beckons with the hand, laughs was saying: „Let me tell you, your family Niannian was in our neighborhood the cleverest child, the little miss lovable was not good, our family/home Pengpeng most liked playing with her together.” 钱阿姨摆了摆手,大笑着说道:“我跟你说啊,你家念念可是我们小区里最乖的孩子,小姑娘可爱的不行,我们家鹏鹏最喜欢跟她一起玩了。” „Right? Hehe......” “是吗？呵呵……” Chen Xi polite smile. 陈曦礼貌性的微笑着。 Possibly is because also not the reason that is familiar with and Sir aunts has to do, therefore he does not know that now should say anything, can only listen to Aunt Qian to talk incessantly with a laugh. 可能是因为还不习惯和大爷大妈们打交道的缘故,所以他现在也不知道该说些什么,只能笑呵呵的听着钱大妈唠叨。 „That must, previous time I tease my family that dumb kid, said after he grew up, marries him Niannian. Hi, you, but had not seen, at that time the dumb kid blushed was like the monkey buttocks, is shy.” “那必须呀,上次我逗我家那傻小子,说等他长大以后就把念念嫁给他。嗨呀,你可是没看到,当时那傻小子脸红的跟猴子屁股一样,害臊死了。” „Real?” “真的吗？” „That was natural, speaking of that the 4-5 child may be more intelligent than us now at that time, whom this trivial point can branch out to be attractive who is unattractive. In neighborhood many children like playing with Niannian, but before only then a Sister Zhang person led the child, therefore she brought Niannian the time that came out to play is not many. Since you came back, that later may probably often bring Niannian to come out to play yo......” “那当然了,你还别说,现在四五孩子可比我们那时候聪明多了,这才屁大一点都能分出谁好看谁不好看了。小区里很多孩子都喜欢跟念念玩,只不过以前只有张大姐一个人带孩子,所以她带念念出来玩的时间也不多。既然你回来了,那以后可要经常带念念出来玩哟……” hearing this, on the Chen Xi face as before the nod name with a smile is, but suddenly had some vigilances at heart. 闻言,陈曦脸上依旧笑吟吟的点头称是,不过心里头却突然有了一些警觉。 ...... …… Martinson( Martinson, 马丁森(Martinson, S. S. M.) believes, the child starts from about 3 years old to the consciousness and behavior that the opposite sex has is in love with. M.)认为,儿童从三岁左右就开始会对异性产生爱恋的意识和行为。 Child's intellectual curiosity is exuberant, cared to all things very much, including care to human organs. 孩子的求知欲旺盛,对所有的事情都很关心,更包括对人体器官的关心。 Sometimes is a person, sometimes is among the opposite sex partners, or makes each other look at X organs, either traces with the hand. 有时是一个人,有时是异性伙伴之间,或者互相让对方看一看X器官,或者用手摸一摸。 The manifestations are 【Imitates doctor】, 【Lifts skirt】, 【Fake marriage】, 【Each family】 Waits to play. 其表现形式多为【模仿医生】、【掀裙子】、【假结婚】、【过家家】等游戏。 According to the RB Nagoya teenage problem agreement met in 1970 investigations of 290 children, did raised the skirt movement has 201 people, but stopped raising the child of skirt to account for 70% under the adult nose ; Peeps at the restroom 167 people ; Peeping at 164 people from skirt ; Manipulates X organ 108 people. 据RB名古屋市青少年问题协议会1970年对290名儿童的调查,其中做掀裙子动作的有201人,而在成人眼皮底下停止掀裙子的儿童占70%;窥视厕所者167人;从裙子下面窥视者164人;摆弄X器官者108人。 Thus it can be seen, this is universal behavior between a children, is unable effective avoidance. 由此可见,这是一种儿童之间的普遍行为,根本无法有效的避免。 Thinks of here, Chen Xi felt like that some are uncomfortable. 一想到这里,陈曦就隐隐觉得有些不舒服。 Dares to have my daughter's idea? 敢打我女儿的主意？ It is not good, must find the opportunity to popularize the sex education to Niannian the knowledge...... 不行,得找机会给念念普及一下性教育的知识了…… The natural psychology of person, the formation of its development and sex role has certain rule, if generally lets things take their natural course the development, the result is often normal ; But if imposes in the child some not correct educational method, then might form the abnormal result very much. 人的性心理,其发展和性别角色的形成具有一定规律,一般若是任其自然发展,往往结果是正常的;可如果强加于孩子一些不正确的教育方法,则很有可能会形成畸形的结果。 Especially the 3 to 5 years old child, through the sex education, should natural psychology enables child's nature to obtain the confirmation of social and individual in the natural the significance of sociology and.? 尤其是3到5岁的孩子,通过性教育,应该在性社会学和性心理学的意义上使孩子的性得到社会和个体的确认。? If discovered that the child has not the correct performance in natural, must correct calmly patiently, naturally guides, cannot curse angrily and threaten. 如果发现孩子在性方面有不正确的表现,要冷静地耐心纠正,自然地引导,不能怒骂、恐吓。 For example sees the child to play with X organs, some mothers angrily rebuke to prevent: „Cannot move!” „Dirty! Do not trace this place!” „Shamed! Later cannot touch!” 例如看到儿童玩弄X器官,有的母亲就怒斥阻止:“不许动！”“脏！不要摸这个地方！”“羞死了！以后不许摸！” Pulls open with the hand forcefully, even one beats mercilessly. 或者用手强行拉开,甚至给一顿毒打。 This was very actually easy to affect the child to form an erroneous idea since childhood: X organs are dirty, shameful, cannot trace, thus every must suppress with X related activities, otherwise was then punished. 这其实很容易影响儿童从小形成了一种错误观念:X器官是脏的、见不得人的、摸不得的,因而凡与X有关的活动是要抑制的,否则便受到惩罚。 The children are in this quite close or conservative environment for a long time, the demand of nature receives visible or invisible constraining, if serious, will also cause the body and spiritual barrier or the pathological change. 儿童长期处于这种较为封闭或保守的环境中,性的需求受到有形或无形的压抑,严重的话,甚至还会引起身体与精神上的障碍或病变。 Therefore, allow nature to take its course, the correct guidance, is only the effective and proper approach. 所以,顺其自然,正确引导,是唯一有效而且正确的做法。 Perhaps because the reason of traditional ideas unseemly behavior, chatted after Aunt Qian, Chen Xi's had mixed feelings. 或许还是因为传统观念作怪的缘故,和钱大妈聊完后,陈曦的心情十分复杂。 Niannian after all is a girl, therefore his , when father always thought that the daughter must suffer a loss...... 念念毕竟是女孩,所以他这当爹的总觉得女儿要吃亏…… Although Chen Xi also understands that is the child deliberately creates trouble, what are more is they as the one instinct and instinct of human, but he feels somewhat uncomfortable...... 虽然陈曦也明白,那都是小孩子胡闹,更多的是他们作为人类的一种天性和本能,但他却还是觉得有些不爽…… Very uncomfortable...... 很不爽…… Very uncomfortable...... 非常不爽…… 4 : 00 pm, the kindergarten was on vacation from school. 下午 4 点,幼儿园放学了。 Chen Xi pushes to the school entrance, little fellow eyes looks at arrived Chen Xi in the crowd. 陈曦挤到校门口,小家伙一眼就在人群中看到了陈曦。 She is shouting loudly „Papa”, while wants to drill from the iron gate, but was actually blocked by Teacher Wang promptly. 她一边高呼着“粑粑”,一边想要从铁门钻出来,但却被王老师及时的拦了下来。 The kindergarten child is not the casual what people can pick, after Teacher Wang sees Chen Xi, she is then holding Niannian's, leads outside the little fellow the arrived school gate. 幼儿园里的孩子可不是随便什么人都可以接走的,等到王老师看到陈曦后,她这才牵着念念的手,把小家伙带到了校门外。 „Papa!” “粑粑！” The little fellows just stepped over the iron gate, falls down on all of a sudden the Chen Xi leg, is holding the Chen Xi's thigh, is supine small head sweet saying: „Papa, I really miss you!” 小家伙刚刚迈过铁门,一下子就扑倒陈曦腿上,然后抱着陈曦的大腿,仰着小脑袋甜甜的说道:“粑粑,我好想你！” „Clever, mua!” “乖,mua！” Chen Xi laughed to hug the little fellow, then held her to say to Teacher Wang: „To the teacher said that sees again.” 陈曦大笑着把小家伙抱了起来,然后托着她对王老师说道:“给老师说再见。” „Teacher sees again!” “老师再见！” The little fellows go all out is wielding the small hand, the impression to Teacher Wang is evidently good. 小家伙卖力的挥着小手,看样子对王老师的印象还不错。 Teacher Wang and Chen Xi polite several, after praising again the little fellow was very sensible, she is then busy delivering another child. 王老师和陈曦客气了几句,再赞扬了小家伙很懂事后,她便又忙着去送另外一个孩子了。 Chen Xi holds Niannian to walk on the road, little fellow excited spoke today to experience anything to him. 陈曦抱着念念走在路上,小家伙则兴奋的跟他讲着自己今天都经历了什么。 „Niannian, do you like the kindergarten?” “念念,你喜不喜欢幼儿园？” „Likes!” “喜欢！” hearing this, little fellow immediately numerous nods. 闻言,小家伙立刻重重的点了点头。 Always is she who a person plays, suddenly had so many same age little friends, naturally happily. 从来都是一个人玩的她,突然有了这么多同龄的小伙伴,自然会开心不已。 „That Father will lead you to come tomorrow again, is good?” “那爸爸明天再带你来,好不好？” „Good!” “好！” „Clever.” “乖。” Chen Xi touches her small cheek, was guessing at heart when the little fellow will say do not go to the words of kindergarten...... 陈曦摸了摸她的小脸蛋,心里头则在猜测,小家伙什么时候会说出不要去幼儿园的话…… ****** ****** ****** ****** Thank 【Honolulu snowscape】 【Tang Zhenbin】 【Wang Chunyan iloveyou】 【Love suo misty rain】 【Qwe martial Hong】 【Niannian health joyful】 Hitting of several bosses enjoy ~ 感谢【檀香山雪景】【唐振彬】【王春艳iloveyou】【love一蓑烟雨】【qwe武鸿】【念念健康快乐】几位老板的打赏~