Master grandson early morning finished eating the breakfast, goes to the villa entrance French garden to stroll. 爷孙俩清晨吃完早餐,来到别墅门口的法式花园里漫步。 Too comes out shortly after firm, the air of Beverly mountain village is fresh and cool, can see two rows of low peach trees, now is in full bloom the peach blossom, they are different from the ordinary peach tree, the had fruit is the flat peach, flat flat that the flowers color deeply. 太阳刚出来不久,比弗利山庄的空气清新又凉爽,能看见两排低矮桃树,如今正盛开着桃花,它们跟普通桃树不同,结出的果子是蟠桃,扁扁的那种,花朵颜色更深一些。 The azure-winged magpie couple hopping along, arrive in the lawn to choose the suitable branch, holds on the pine tree to nidify with the mouth, the feather color of azure-winged magpie is very attractive, on the head buckles probably is going against the black hat, almost cannot see the eye, the volume is very big. 灰喜鹊夫妻俩一蹦一跳,来到草坪上挑选适合的枝条,用嘴衔着去松树上筑巢,灰喜鹊的羽毛颜色挺漂亮,脑袋上像是扣着顶黑帽子,几乎看不见眼睛,体积挺大。 The day before yesterday the time, their old nests were scraped by gale, the small magpie falling down tree, that was only continually small long the feather of magpie already soon simultaneous/uniform, but will not have flown, now is looked from the gardener, seizes the bug time to bring to feed. 前天时候,它们的旧窝被一场大风刮坏了,连小喜鹊都掉下树,那只小喜鹊的羽毛已经快要长齐,但是还不会飞,现在由园丁代为照顾,捉到小虫时候就拿来喂给它。 This time fed the strip fat azure insect, food to it is too big, be only half were swallowed, the other half is still swaying from side to side outside its mouth, almost chokes the small magpie, seeing this scene time, Han Xuan to eliminate to pat its idea decisively, is really far lovably. 这次喂了条胖青虫,对它而言食物太大,只有一半被吞进去,另一半还在它的嘴巴外面扭动着,差点把小喜鹊噎死,看见这幕场景时候,韩宣果断打消掉去摸摸它的想法,实在谈不上可爱。 Fatty bullies unusual pet that the gardener raised- chameleon, it bites unceasingly various types of different color things, places in front of the chameleon, how then observes it to transform the color intensely. 胖丁欺负起了园丁养的奇特宠物-变色龙,它不断将各种不同颜色的东西咬来,放在变色龙面前,接着观察它如何紧张地变换颜色。 A long time, people think that the cat is the color blindness, can only see the black, grey and white, but the scientific study proof, this view is unsustainable at present. 在很长一段时间内,人们认为猫是色盲,只能看到黑色、灰色和白色,但是目前科学研究证明,这种看法不能成立。 The experiment showed that after the kitties were trained, can definitely differentiate the color, many scientists believe, the cat does not care about the color, although it can see the color, actually does not give the color to bestow on with any significance. 实验证明,猫咪们经过训练后,完全可以区分颜色,很多科学家认为,猫不关心颜色,虽然它可以看出颜色,却并不给颜色赋与任何意义。 At this time, Fatty many type of things, placed in front of the chameleon simultaneously, then this chameleon intertwined, turned into the multi-colored color simply. 这时候,胖丁把很多种东西,同时放在变色龙面前,然后这条变色龙就纠结了,索性变成五彩缤纷的颜色。 Is terminally ill( intensive phobophobia) Han Xuan, does not like the chameleon, he not loves about lizard branch, ophidia, bat and other species, feared that this color strange chameleon was not played carefully by Fatty, therefore fat cat carrying off...... 身患绝症(密集恐惧症)的韩宣,并不喜欢变色龙,他对蜥蜴科、蛇类、蝙蝠等物种无爱,怕这条颜色怪异的变色龙被胖丁给不小心玩死,于是将肥猫给带走…… With old man chat time, knew that Grandma was busy recently very much. 跟老头聊天时候,得知奶奶最近忙得很。 She was bored at home before, recently actually enjoyed the tired work, often before the feeling, all day ate rested and rested the life of eating to have what meaning. 她以前在家无聊,最近竟然享受起劳累的工作,时常感慨以前整天吃了睡、睡了吃的人生有什么意思。 Han Xuan is very glad to see this change, and clear creates the change clearly, is not because wants to leave the wealth to oneself, but is the elders is enjoying the process of operation enterprise, stays behind the wealth conveniently, but for matter. 韩宣挺乐意见到这种改变,并且清楚明白造成改变的,不是因为想要留下财富给自己,而是长辈们在享受经营事业的过程,留下财富只是顺手而为的事情。 The people are living for short dozens years, most also more than hundred years, must live, should not for the children or other. 人活着短短几十年,最多也不过百多年,要为了自己而活,不应该是为了子女或者其他的。 Has a look at Huaxia to know, many men work hard in keeping a family, for child's future, but works hard, the woman is also the same, work at the same time is busy the belt/bring child, the entire families revolve the child revolutions, the pressure is big. 看看华夏就知道,有多少男人操劳于养家糊口,为了孩子的将来而努力工作,女人也一样,工作的同时忙着带孩子,整个家庭都围绕着孩子转,生活压力非常大。 Solely divides two stages the life, before having the child, and after having the child, before there is a child , the life is itself, afterward was living for others, not only attendance descendant, descendant but who must take care of the descendant. 单单将人生划分成两个阶段,有孩子之前和有孩子之后,有孩子之前人生属于自己,后来就在为别人而活着,不仅照顾后代,还得照顾后代的后代。 Said raise children to provide against old age, but as if gnaws the old clan is quite many, spoils excessively nourishes the hotbed of meter/rice insect, for a lot of years, unexpectedly no one thought that this approach is not normal, instead starts to put together the parents very much proudly. 都说养儿防老,但似乎啃老族比较多,过分溺爱是滋养米虫的温床,千百年来,竟然没人觉得这种做法不正常,反而很自豪地开始拼起爹妈。 After child marriage, parents to money support, after parents old, the pension also gives the child, such dry/does person number are many. 孩子结婚后,父母给钱养着,父母老了后,养老金也给孩子,这样干的人数量不少。 Before Han Xuan also thinks that the parents did like this naturally, but after arriving at United States, discovered a fact: The United States parents, are happier than the Huaxia parents, moreover incessantly happy little. 以前韩宣也认为父母这样干理所当然,但来到美国后发现一个事实:美国的父母们,比华夏的父母们更加幸福,而且不止幸福一点点。 The American life stage, from oneself to the child, then the following about half life is also itself probably, for the child, approximately only spends 1/4 lives. 美国人的人生阶段,大概是从自己到孩子,然后接下来的近半人生又属于自己,为了孩子,大约只花费四分之一生命。 No one cares for the aged oneself to make money, has the poor way of living poorly, the rich rich way of living, is in the same old way free and unrestrained, the child has not been driven to the streets, in fact overwhelming majorities after grown, understood how to live. 没人养老就自己挣钱,穷有穷的活法,富有富的活法,照样逍遥自在,孩子也没沦落街头,事实上绝大多数在成年后,更加懂得如何生活。 The United States child was at age 18, will want to leave the parents impatiently, to them, left the parents to live alone, 美国的孩子年满18岁后,就会迫不及待地想要离开父母,对他们来说,离开父母单独居住, Is the proof the independent most important indicator, how regardless of the society develops, American the values, never change. Western child 17-18 years old like the Sir, here refer to the independent viability and thought concept, but Huaxia child, after university graduation marriage and having child, are still more like the child. 是证明已经独立的最重要标志,无论社会如何发展,美国人的这种价值观,始终不曾发生变化。西方孩子17-18岁就像大人,这里是指独立生活能力和思维观念,而华夏的孩子,大学毕业结婚生子后,依然更像是孩子。 The time is changing, the society is also changing, the westerner thinks that raises grown the child, is duty that the parents should do, after the parents are left over enough university fund completely arrives at the duty, then makes child go out to fight, striving for success is their lives, is magnificently good ordinary , is happily most important. 时代在变化,社会也在变化,西方人认为将孩子养到成年,是父母应尽的义务,父母存下足够的大学基金尽到义务后,接下来就让孩子自己出去打拼,拼搏属于他们自己的人生,辉煌也好、平凡也罢,开开心心最重要。 If obtains the scholarship or stops out, the university fund cannot use, that turns into the undertaking fund the university fund or money that is used to get married, or the child successfully found the good outlet, the parents then can spend that sum of money Liu. 如果得到奖学金或者中途退学,大学基金用不上,那就将大学基金变成创业基金或者用来结婚的钱,又或者孩子顺利找到了挺不错的出路,父母便可以将那笔钱留着自己花。 The senior citizens open Ferrari, their descendants hold the matter of worn-out second-hand vehicle, is common in the Western society, this is not selfish, if descendants try hard, to old can also drive the expensive car, these parents are living for oneself, enjoys the life. 老年人开法拉利,他们后代开破旧二手车的事情,在西方社会屡见不鲜,这不是自私,假如后代们自己努力,到老也能开上豪车,这些父母才是在为自己活着,享受人生。 After the parents die, the descendants can attain many heritages, that must look at the luck, the love to child has not changed, but this does not hinder them to enjoy the life. 至于父母死后,后代们能拿到多少遗产,那得看运气,对孩子的爱没有变化,但这并不妨碍他们享受人生。 No country law stipulated, the children be rich in compared with the former generation person, in the animal kingdom, no animal will take care of the descendant conscientiously for a lifetime, this explained that the approach of Chinese, did not gather the survival principle the truth, is the limitation of secular concept imposes on people. 没哪国法律规定,子女一定要比上代人富有,在动物界,没有哪种动物会兢兢业业照顾后代一辈子,这说明华人的做法,本就不合生存法则的道理,是世俗观念的局限性强加在人们身上的。 The Chinese always like saying that „this is for the child, for the next generation many makes money”, but each generation said oneself make money for the next generation, can actually probably to which generation, spend these money? 华人总是喜欢说“这是为了孩子,为了下一代多挣些钱”,但每一代都说自己赚钱是为了下一代,可究竟要到哪一代,才会花掉这些钱呢？ The excuse said for the descendant family's happiness, but actually sacrificed family's happiness, this really selfish, the couple lives in two places the scenes is not rare for the child , the social material crossflow and money will be no wonder supreme in the future. 借口说为了后代家庭的幸福,但却牺牲掉自己家庭的幸福,这才是真的自私,夫妻为了孩子分居两地的场景不少见,也难怪将来社会物质横流、金钱至上。 In the reason of high divorce rate, very main part because of the kinship to child, surpasses the love, without has considered for the opposite party, naturally thinks that the child is all, one side other can first place...... 发生高离婚率的原因,很主要一部分是因为对孩子的亲情,超过爱情本身,没有为对方考虑过,理所当然认为孩子就是一切,其他都可以先放在一边…… Meets the issue that cannot comprehend to ask the old gentleman, he listens to Han Xuan after descendant's question, put forward a new viewpoint, told: „ Because of our Chinese, for a lot of years feared probably poorly. 遇到搞不懂的问题就问老爷子,他听完韩宣关于后代的疑问后,提出一个新观点,告诉说:“大概是因为我们华人,千百年来穷怕了吧。 Initially my father and grandfather they, left me the best thing, killed a chicken, two legs all were my, the elders visit me to eat, at that time I had not known to give precedence out of courtesy, now thinks really to blush. 当初我父亲、爷爷他们,就是把最好的东西都留给我,杀一只鸡,两个腿全是我的,长辈们看着我吃,那时候我还不知道礼让,现在想想真脸红。 In the past the big family of four generations in one household became a favorite story, is unfilial, no afterlife is most common, although some old concepts have declined now, but the certain spirits of traditional culture, actually still deeply took root on the Chinese. 过去四世同堂的大家庭被传为佳话,不孝有三,无后为大,虽然有的旧观念现在已经衰退,但传统文化的某些精神,却仍然深深植根在华人身上。 Huaxia for several thousand years, have never had the perfect social security system, therefore everyone does not have the security sense, for tomorrow, but makes an effort to squeeze out today, is not we likes the wealth, but is to make the insurance to oneself ahead of time, the Caucasians and blacks cannot understand these. 华夏几千年来,从来没有过完善的社会保障体系,所以大家都没安全感,都在为了明天,而使劲榨取今天,不是我们喜欢财富,而是自己提前给自己做保险,白人、黑人们不能理解这些。 Even President Clinton were urging, said the savings ratio of Huaxia resident is too high, should spend, is used to stimulate the economy, the Huaxia initial premier, thinks that must set up what golden week vacation, urges the consumption. 连克林顿总统都在呼吁,说华夏居民的储蓄率太高,应该多消费,用来刺激经济,华夏当初的总理,也认为要设立什么黄金周假期,促使居民消费。 These start from the ancestor, can the Caucasians of life under perfect welfare system, understand the ordinary Chinese to future that type no use and frightened? 那些从祖上开始,就生活在完善的福利体系下的白人们,能懂得普通华人对未来那种无助和恐惧吗？ The Chinese were really feared poorly, even if I have gotten rich now, can think made more wealth, in our people of China heart, thinks that can leave behind more properties to the descendants, was to the descendants biggest concern, to family biggest responsible. 华人真的是穷怕了,哪怕我现在已经发了财,还是会想着发更多的财,在我们华人心中,认为能给子孙留下更多财产,才是对子孙最大的关爱,也是对家庭最大的负责任。 I know that this idea has the issue, but most Chinese truly think that like this, is very difficult to change. 我知道这个想法有问题,不过绝大多数华人确实是这样想的,很难改变。 The young time, I am busy working all day, almost makes divorces with your Grandma, now is not intimate with your father's relations, is because was not at home at that time for a long time, he is also complaining about me to the present. 年轻时候,我整天忙着工作,差点闹得跟你奶奶离婚,现在之所以和你父亲的关系不算亲密,也是因为那时候长期不在家,他到现在还埋怨着我呢。 In childhood in family/home poor, all day was being expelled like the dog by the white policeman, wore the old clothes, to eat the leftover dish, to take to the streets to clean up the trash to buy the hot dog, but also did not hate one to finish eating. 小时候家里穷,整天被白人警察像狗一样撵着,穿旧衣服、吃剩菜、上街捡垃圾买热狗,还舍不得一顿吃完。 Now can pursue money with great difficulty publicly and safely, do not count on that in 12 generations of person time, can alleviate the desire and power that this type was constrained for a long time spout. 现在好不容易可以公开、安全地追逐金钱了,别指望在一两代人时间内,能缓解这种被压抑过久而喷涌出来的欲望和动力。 Recently were many first becomes wealthy the Chinese American family, has been studying the Western parents to make the child independent, this explained that Chinese beforehand approach, could not be inseparable from the social security defect, moreover related is very close. 最近不少先富裕起来的美国华人家庭,已经在学习西方父母让孩子独立,这说明华人以前的做法,和社会保障缺失脱不了干系,而且关系还很紧密。 If not need to worry for the life of descendant, who is willing to spend for a lifetime the time only to make money, the inborn inexpensive life likes working? 假如不用为后代的生活担忧,谁愿意花一辈子时间只为了挣钱呢,难道天生贱命喜欢工作？ However such approach really has the issue, cannot raise them for a lifetime. 不过这样的做法确实有问题,总不能养着他们一辈子。 The rich Chinese after all only then a few, most overseas Chinese are very poor, many illegal immigrants identity issues are unsolvable, our North America Chinese organization, is trying to help relate the government to solve, the person who may immigrate is continuous, is not simple can complete...... ” 有钱的华人毕竟只有少数,绝大多数海外华人还很穷,许多非法移民连身份问题都不能解决,我们北美华人组织,正在试图帮忙联系政府解决,可移民过来的人络绎不绝,不是简简单单就能完成……” These words just like are enlightened, making Han Xuan see clearly all of a sudden were at contradictory. 这番话犹如醍醐灌顶,让韩宣一下子看清了矛盾所在。 It is not when parents does not want to relax, but was too poor, the society has not developed to let the parental relaxed comfortable stage, if the parents do not interfere with the children to live, the marriage wants the room, to want the issue of car(riage), naturally will naturally be solved. 不是当父母的不想放松,而是太穷了,社会还没发展到可以让父母们轻松自在的阶段,如果父母不干涉子女生活,结婚要房、要车的问题,自然自然就会得到解决。 Like this thinks, the modern Chinese is sorrowful, except for first becomes wealthy that young group of people and except for the people who do not want the children, remaining being doomed must undertake to work as the responsibility of parental and children. 这样想想,近代华人是悲哀的,除了先富裕起来的那一小批人、除了不想要子女的人,剩下的注定得承担起当父母和子女的责任。 What is more pitiful, may not have the good result diligently, the speed of money-making compared with the house price the speed of rise and currency devaluation, this is the responsibility that the country should shoulder. 更加可悲的是,努力也不一定会有好结果,赚钱的速度比不过房价上涨、货币贬值的速度,这就是属于国家应该担负的责任了。 Does not have a child, must undertake to consider parents' responsibility, having a child were also many a responsibility, the words of most patho are: The money at age 60 making, was used to give saw a doctor at age 60, family of seven that a labor force, must support the normal family, but must live to consider for the descendant, one got sick, a suite, demolished sufficiently...... 不生孩子,得承担起照顾父母的责任,生孩子就又多了一份责任,最悲情的话莫过于:60岁前赚的钱,用来给60岁后看病,一个劳动力,要养活正常家庭的七口之家,还要为后代生活做考虑,一场病、一套房,就足以将人摧垮…… ( I know that recently in condition reason, chronic enteritis, fatty liver, did not feel sorry for me am 22 years old, daily sits, must pull out time exercise) (我知道最近不在状态的原因了,慢性肠炎,还有脂肪肝,可怜我才22周岁,天天坐着,要抽时间锻炼)